a daybook for july

Over the many years I've been blogging, I've done variations of this daybook sort of post, sometimes monthly, other times seasonally. It is one of my favorite posts to read from others and a very enjoyable one to write as well. So, alas, here I am, bringing it back to my little cozy corner. I hope you enjoy! ♥

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outside my window

Deep summertime is well and truly here. Lush, rich, vibrant, deep green is literally everywhere I look outside. The grass, the trees. the bushes and shrubs, the herbs in our garden. Green and more green...I'm not complaining, though, as deep summer green is one of my favorite colors. And one of the only things I actually like about summer. Ha! Pops of pink peek through in our garden thanks to my mom's Mother's Day hydrangea, along with hues of bright orange coming from our daylilies, which are both thriving. Oh, and the basil! It's growing like crazy! Needless to say, we're enjoying lots of basil in our meals...my goodness, the scent. Blissful! Lightning bugs in the evenings and squirrels running in the trees in the morning and lots of rain, which makes me so happy, and weather so hot and humid you feel incredibly gross and sticky just going to get the mail. Ah, summertime.

i am thinking

Of autumn and cooler weather and crisp temps and cozy clothing...am I ashamed to admit this? Absolutely not! {{winks}} Seriously, though, my "autumn fever" has set in and I am looking forward to being able to go outside without getting attacked by countless mosquitoes and dripping with sweat after just five minutes.

i am thankful for

My mom, sister, and our fur babies. Our home and little corner of the world. Home cooking and getting to make meals for my dear family. Rain and cloudy days and air conditioning. Iced tea and berry bread pudding and music that makes me feel alive.

from the kitchen

My mom recently made Susan Branch's bread pudding from her Summer Book. She exchanged the sugar (1 cup, I think) to just 1/4 cup honey...all that sugar honestly gets ridiculous. It was beyond delicious, especially with whipped cream. Bread pudding and fruity desserts have never been something I crave or would choose when given a choice. Until now. This recipe is addictive! I also made, for the first time ever, a tomato pie. This is an old, traditional Southern dish that I've never made before. A few years ago, my sister mentioned it and then we forgot about it again...this past week, we remembered, I made it, we ate it, and we loved it. So summery and once again, I got to use my garden-fresh basil. {{smiles}}

i am creating

Still crocheting granny squares, sewing quilt blocks, started a new book journal. Little, ordinary things that aren't so little or ordinary.

i am wearing

Black-ish/dark navy-ish legging-capris with a colorful floral print, a black cami under a hot pink tank with lace details, hair up in a clip (too dang hot to wear it down), and my favorite pair of sandals.

in my cup

A new-to-us herbal tea flavor from Yogi Tea called "berry cherry". Make it iced and add a splash (or two!) of half and half, and take a sip...ah, perfection.

i am reading

I've been really struggling with reading lately, but I just finished Gladys Taber's Stillmeadow Album this week. It's a photo album of sorts showcasing Taber's home, Stillmeadow, along with some of her reflection on her home and life there. It was absolutely delightful, as is everything I've read from her so far. She's a true favorite of mine, a kindred spirit sort of writer. I'm so thankful for her words.

i am listening to

Lots of Celtic/Irish music and 90s-2000s country favorites (I have a playlist that I like as I'm quite picky) and other songs that were the soundtrack of my childhood and teen years. My most played songs right now are: Irresistible (One Direction); Beautiful Soul (Jesse McCartney); That's the Way (Jo Dee Messina); Will Ye Go, Lassie, Go (Celtic Thunder); Sunday in the South (Shenandoah with Jason Aldean and Luke Bryan); and Hometown Girl (Josh Turner).

i am watching

I recently purchased a boxed set of the first 10 seasons of Vera. So I'm slowly making my way through them for a rewatch. I haven't watched the first few seasons in probably 3 years or so, so I forget lots of the storylines. Fun!

i am hoping

That the second half of summer isn't too hot. To return to my crocheting and quilting projects, as well as to get back into reading...I miss all of these things.

i am hearing

The sound of the air conditioner kicking on, cats running and playing with each other, crickets outside (even though the windows, their song is quite loud), my playlist in the background.

around the house

Organizing bookshelves and our pantry; tidying up craft supplies, watering plants each evening when it's hasn't rained.

one of my favorite things

At the moment, my favorite thing is iced creamy tea...which I mentioned above. So many flavor options and oh so refreshing!

word collecting

A beautiful thing is never perfect. (Unknown)

How many things does this apply to? I can't begin to number them, but how true it is.

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What's happening in your corner of the world? 

a baker's dozen of essentials for a cozy life

When I think of what makes a cozy life, there are a few things that come to mind. While each of these things bring a bit of coziness on their own, when added together, it creates m a g i c. And, in my opinion, all of them are needed for the coziest night at home. These are things that I've talked about many times before, so this is nothing new or some crazy profound idea, but it is something special to me. I won't go into too much detail on each point, but instead share a brief thought as well as a photo to give you an idea of how I bring this to life. 

  

This is just a fun little post of what I consider "essentials" to the cozy life. And a rather simple one, too, to end what has been a tremendously fun and wonderful month-long series...

(some of my sweater collection that I absolutely love wearing)

 

  One.   

 Comfy clothing

For me, this is leggings, soft denim jeans, sweaters, sweatshirts, cardigans, warm socks, really comfortable boots or sneakers.

(a new addition to my mug family. how cute is this little squirrel?)

Two. 

Pretty mugs

Mugs to me are something much more than just a thing you drink out of. They are things of delight, beauty, and happiness. I love enjoying a warming drink in a pretty mug.

(an absolutely beyond soft and comfy pair of slippers that I wear all the time. fuzzy socks...not pictured...are also a fave!)

Three.

Fuzzy socks/Slippers

 

 There's nothing like putting on a pair of fuzzy socks or incredibly soft slippers in the evening.

(twinkly fairy lights and a salt lamp and my diffuser which doubles as a flickering little light...so much cozier than bright lighting)

Four.

Fairy lights/Soft lighting

Soft lighting makes for a gentler atmosphere and tone for a space. And fairy lights are just one way to bring about softer lighting, especially if you don't go for the bright, white sort. And at Christmastime, I love the colorful strings.

(one of my favorite candle scents)

Five.

Candles/Fireplace/Diffusing Oils

 

Scent and the gentle flicker of a candle or the crackle of a fireplace brings such a homeliness that few other things can. Diffusing oils is also fun, but not as cozy, in my opinion. I like to do a mixture of both.

(just some of the shows and movies that I love...I totally forgot to include Gilmore Girls, a top favorite of mine, but our DVDs were downstairs, and I forgot all about it until I went to add this photo here.)

Six.

 Movies/TV favorites/Music

 I believe one of the most fun ways to spend an evening is by cuddling up on the sofa under a blanket, with a mug of something delicious, and watching a beloved movie or show. And having music playing the background of my day or whilst I'm working on something just brings about such joy and delight.

(a cozy autumnal dinnertime)

Seven.

Comforting meals

 Taking the time to prepare, cook, and eat a home-cooked meal is one of life's most beautiful pleasures. Nothing against restaurants and such, but I firmly believe that the majority of our meals should be prepared, cooked, and eaten at home with our loved ones. And turn it into a feast by setting the table with a few candles, dimming the lights, and really enjoying your time together. It's one of our favorites!

(flannel pajama pants are the quintessential cozy sleep clothes)

Eight. 

Soft pajamas

Good, flannel pajama pants and a really, crazy soft cotton T-shirt can't be beat when it comes to soft and comfy pajamas. 

(a rather blurry picture of my bed several years ago. now, it's on a different wall in my room but still looks this cozy. although, now I also have a throw blanket draped on the foot just for our kitties.)

Nine.

Blankets/Layers

 I don't know about you, but I sleep so much better when it's cold outside. The added extra blankets on my bed make it so much more inviting and help me to sleep better. I love sinking down into my bed, pulling the covers far up to my chin, and just let my eyes slowly and gently close as I fall asleep.

Ten.

Tea/Hot Chocolate/Spiced Cider

 

My favorites are Wild Sweet Orange tea, a healthy hot cacao sweetened with maple syrup and topped with healthy homemade marshmallows, and the occasional apple cider with all the spices...cinnamon, cloves, nutmeg. Ah! Bliss!

(a few of my most beloved books)

Eleven.

Books

Obviously. Need I say more!

(our autumnal mantle with flowers from my mom's birthday)

Twelve.

A warm, welcoming, comfortable home

 

 Home should be the center of our lives. The most important place on earth. Period. And to make it a haven, an anchor, a sacred place...that is an honor. Adding touches that bring warmth, comfort, and beauty is a gift. And making home a place where you truly want to be...that's priceless.

(a wee little peek inside my journal)

Thirteen.

Creative projects/Art

 

I think it's good to always have something you're working on. And for each one us, that will look different. For some, it may be art, or a handicraft. For others, it may be a decorative or design project, or an organization project. It could be writing or photography. But I think it's always good to have something you're working on, even if it's small. Being creative feeds us in ways we can't imagine. And not just being creative ourselves, but also in surrounding ourselves with art and filling our homes with it, too. I personally love collecting art prints and gorgeous postcards and such and hanging them on my walls or displaying them on my bookshelves. They bring me such inspiration and happiness!

What are your cozy essentials?

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Well, my dear reader friends and kindred spirits, we have come to the grand finale of my October series. I so hope you enjoyed this monthlong celebration of all things autumnal, homey, and cozy as much as I have. I must say that I had the most tremendous fun writing all of these posts and compiling them. That's how I spent most of my August and September and now, it's finally the end of October.

I want to thank you so very much for joining me here every day this month. I have enjoyed reading all of your comments and messages as they brought me such delight each day. You seriously cannot know how much fun YOU made this series for me! Thank you for that SO VERY MUCH! ♥

I will say that there were several (quite a few, actually!) topics and questions that you all shared with me in my survey a couple months ago that I just simply did not get to in this 31-day series. However, do not fear! I have them written down with plans to do posts or mini-series on them over the coming months. (Such as thrifting, decorating, collecting, books, commonplace journal-keeping, creative journaling, crafting, outfit posts, etc.) I also plan on sharing a video tour of my bookshelves and several more journaling videos soonish. So, there's plenty of cozy posts and videos coming still! Do look forward to that! 

Speaking of videos, I have been contemplating, for awhile now, doing more YouTube videos, and even more seriously contemplating that idea since the summer. This is something that greatly interests me. I am a very private person, but at the same time, I love the sit down, chatty sorts of videos about books and journaling, and I think I could do that in a way that still respects my introversion and private nature. I don't know...is this something you would be interested in watching? Sit down, cozy and casual chats about books and journaling and perhaps something else here and there...that's the sort of video I enjoy watching and am interested in making. So let me know...would you watch videos like that?

In the meantime, I would love to know which posts you loved the most in this 31-day series, so do share with me! Also, if there are any other cozy or homey topics you'd like to see a post on, please let me know. You all really shared some great ideas with me and I'm all ears...so send your thoughts my way!

And until next time, may you have a lovely and magical day...

Happy Halloween!

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how i rate books

It occurred to me during this series, about mid-way through, that I really should share my "system" for how I rate books. I've begun sharing more and more books here over the last few months and have plans to share more books as I complete them, as well as some favorites on my shelf. But I've never shared how I rate my books and what I mean when I give a book a star rating. Everyone has their own way of rating books and when you learn about each person's so-called method, it can really help you to understand how and why a book got its rating and review. I really should have shared this awhile back, but it seriously just dawned on me in the middle of this series and as I was realizing that I was sharing quite a few bookish ramblings here.

Firstly, let me say that I read for fun. Period. I read for enjoyment, delight, escapism, to be immersed in a story.

Secondly, I believe reading should be lighthearted. For that reason, I do not give myself grand expectations with numbers, nor do I push myself to read as fast as I can. I believe stories should be savoured and reading should not cause stress.

Thirdly, I have heard some readers say that they listen to audiobooks on 2x the speed, that they push through books they're not really loving, etc. For me, reading is not about trying to read as much as fast as I can. That way of doing things doesn’t mesh with me.

Fourth, I rate my books on whether or not I've enjoyed them. I also consider the content. I am not a book critic, so I don’t focus on the writing style, etc. Even if a book didn’t have the “best” writing, etc., if I loved it, I still give a high rating. Sometimes those things play into my rating, but only as add-ons to my opinion already. It’s more about my personal experience with the book.

Finally...I do give most of my reads a 4- or 5-star rating. And that's simply because if I'm not loving a book, I don't continue reading it. That's something I feel very strongly about because I spent too many years pushing through books that I really just hated. So with that said, here's how I rate my books:

⭐: 

I honestly hated this book and more than likely, I gave it away or tossed it, depending on the contents and how horrible it was.

⭐⭐:

 I really did not enjoy this book, but I didn't quite hate it. It's probably not living on my shelves anymore.

 

⭐⭐⭐: 

This book was okay. It had things that I enjoyed, but I probably won't read it again.

⭐⭐⭐⭐:

 I really liked this book...so close to loving it, but something(s) held me back. Still a keeper and would recommend it.

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐: 

I absolutely loved this book! It's more than likely on my favorites list and a definite re-read. A for-sure recommendation to others. This is a book I can't stop thinking about!

Now you have a bit better idea as to how I rate my books. Everyone has their own method, but this is just how I do it. I hope this helps my reviews make a bit more sense as I share about books here in this cozy space.

Happy reading, friends!

♥

home comforts and coziness ♥ an autumnal tea time

Autumn leaves are falling,

and the tea kettle is calling.

Warm greetings to you, dear friends! 

 It is a tremendous pleasure to have you over for a visit today...

do make yourself a cuppa tea and settle in for a while. 

Get cozy and comfortable and let's enjoy an autumn afternoon teatime together,

shall we?

{{This post is an archived post from October 2019. I loved this tea party so much and we had lots of fun. So I hope you enjoy revisiting a delightful day from a few years back.}}

A couple weeks ago we hosted our very first Autumn Tea Party, and it was a grand success! 

Oh, I'm just sure that this will become an annual thing.

My sister, mom and I, along with two friends from our old neighborhood, enjoyed a lovely, quaint teatime on a sunny, crisply cool autumn Saturday. The weather was just perfect and set the most delightful tone for our tea party. Our afternoon was filled with lots of laughter and plenty of chatting too...it's always a fun time when we get together with these friends.

I do have to say, though, that the fun started the evening before when we began our preparations for the party the next day. On a Friday evening we set out in the kitchen with a long list of tasks needing to be completed, things to be baked and mixed up, and a bit of tidying up, too. Also, not to forget, picking out the perfect teacups and teapot and pieces for our table settings. We worked for about six hours on Friday night, leaving only the things that had to be done last minute for Saturday morning.

I stuck with a proper tea menu of three savouries, three sweets and one scone. We had a variety of teas, but the absolute favorite of the afternoon was a blend that I affectionately named, "October's Party Tea". It is a simple blend of black (decaf!) tea and fruit juices and a bit of pumpkin pie spice. Truly, it was the perfect blend of spices and sweetness with a fruity hint in the background...everyone loved it and all declared it a winner! In fact, our friends asked me to send them the recipe because they loved it so much...we quite agreed!

I'm going to make everything around me beautiful.

That will be my life.

-Elsie De Wolfe-

Our teatime menu:

♥ Chicken, Apple & Cheddar on White Bread with Honey Mustard

♥ Turkey, Cranberry & Spinach Pinwheels

♥ Wild Rice Phyllo Cups with Citrus Vinaigrette

♥ Old-Fashioned Gingerbread

♥ Mini Caramel Apple Crisp Cheesecakes

♥ Autumn Spice Cookies with Frosting

♥ Cream Scones with Homemade Apple Butter and Spiced Cream

♥ Black Tea

♥ Herbal Teas

♥ October's Party Tea

Beauty is so quietly woven through our ordinary days that we hardly notice it.

-John O'Donohue-

With candles flickering and little pumpkins gracing our table, we gathered round and filled our plates with such delicious delicacies. We chatted for hours and laughed hard and watched squirrels playing outside through the window. It was a blessed time of friendship and fun and good food, and we ended the afternoon by moving into the living room where the conversation flowed and we told stories of recent travels and spoke of our old neighborhood and laughed at the crazy antics of each family's pets.

It's tea o-clock somewhere.

After our friends left, we were feeling full to the brim with gratitude for such a lovely time. Since it was such a picture-perfect autumn day, we settled in on our driveway and sat around my mom's firepit. The night rolled in and the sky became black, with nearly the only light coming from the moon in the far distance. The air was getting chillier and quite nippy, so we pulled on warm jackets and huddled closer to the fire...we listened to our favorite traditional Irish tunes and shared reflections from our day. The day ended with such an abundant thankfulness filling our hearts...and we all remarked on how we couldn't wait to do it again...perhaps at Christmastime.

What happens around the teapot;

stays around the teapot.

Thank you for coming by for a visit today, dear ones...

it is always a delight to know such kindred spirits gather here.

May your day be a blessed one in every single way!

♥♥♥

the cottage library ♥ daisies for innocence

I am ever so delighted to share this book with you, my reader friends. This was my very first official cozy mystery book to read and I do believe I have since fallen in love with this genre. Since finishing this book, I have read an Agatha Raisin mystery (which I loved) and am currently working on a book in a different series by the author who wrote today's feature...

Daisies for Innocence 

Ellie, a young woman who has a special touch with plants and flowers and aromatherapy and such. Maybe not so much of a special touch, but a magical touch. Her best friend who bakes cookies everyday to bring into her shop, Scents and Nonsense. A handsome guy who's just come back to town who she had a crush on when she was a teenager. A corgi and a cat. A charming small town setting. Fun side characters with a bit of quirkiness thrown in for some spice. Oh, and an enchanted garden. And, of course, murder. 

  

Seriously, what more could you ask for in a cozy mystery?!?!

This book grabbed me from page one. I was immediately drawn into the small town of Poppyville, the aromatherapy shop, the enchanted garden. And I also really enjoyed following Ellie, the main character, as she sought to clear her name as a suspect and solve the murder of her employee, who just so happened to be dating her ex-husband. Which she only found out the day before the body was discovered outside Ellie's shop.  

  

I loved every minute I spent reading this one. It was such a fun book! I did suspect the killer as I read the story, but it was fun to see if I was correct and to see how it all played out. This book also had similar vibes to the "Good Witch" movies on Hallmark, which also made it extra fun.

This is the first in what I believe is a series of three books. And I will most definitely be looking for those as I can't wait to read more of Ellie's story and join her in more mystery solving.

 5 stars from me!

the coziest ideas list

Here are just a few ideas to add some coziness to your everyday life. These are neither difficult or extravagant, and can be done on any ordinary day. Choose one or two, here and there, to bring beauty, whimsy and fun to your cozy days...

♥ watch a cozy movie by candlelight under a snuggly blanket

♥ cook a meal that needs to simmer all afternoon long on the stove

♥ have a family game night with tasty snacks

♥ no screens for one night...light candles, read a book, hang out with family, chat, play games, craft, etc.

♥ hang twinkly fairy lights in your bedroom...or any other part of your home, for that matter

♥ make hot chocolate and top it with lots of marshmallows or whipped cream and serve it in a pretty mug

♥ make your couch or comfy chair extra cozy with blankets and throw pillows

♥ eat dinner by candlelight

♥ go on a nature walk or drive and take photos of the seasonal beauty

♥ read a novel, perhaps a seasonal story

♥ enjoy a cup of hot tea whilst curled up in bed

♥ have a soup and bread night by candlelight...even better if it's homemade and cooked together with your dearest ones

♥ create a cozy diffuser blend with essential oils to enjoy

♥ make a spicy scented room spray if it's autumn or winter (or earthy, floral scented one for warmer weather)

♥ wear cozy clothing...always

♥ bake homemade cookies

♥ listen to soothing music

♥ have a tea party, however simple or grand you wish

♥ wear your warmest, softest pj's 

♥ make homemade popcorn

♥ knit a cowl or scarf for the season

♥ light a candle while you go about your daily tasks

♥ journal your thoughts or favorite quotes

♥ wear fluffy slippers or thick socks...or both!

♥ bake seasonal breads

♥ wear knit scarves or cowls to stay warm

♥ add layers to your bed with blankets, comforters and extra pillows with pretty pillowcases on them

♥ use a dainty teacup for your nighttime, before bed cuppa

♥ display knickknacks on shelves and dressers 

♥ make your mantle extra festive with seasonal decorations

♥ create a seasonal recipe notebook full of comforting foods to enjoy during the colder months

♥ have a marathon of your favorite TV show or movies one day

♥ take a slow shower or bath and don't rush

♥ find essential oils that work for your own wellness and use them daily

♥ read a favorite magazine in your coziest spot for half an hour 

♥ rake leaves and then come inside for a warming meal

♥ collect acorns or pinecones and display them in your home

♥ make seasonal crafts to decorate your home

♥ have a hot chocolate, spiced cider, herbal tea and flavored coffee corner...well stocked with all your favorites, including pretty mugs (an electric kettle is perfect for this!)

♥ make a reading basket filled with a selection of novels or other books you want to read soon

♥ spend some time reading a children's storybook...no matter how old you are

♥ wear an apron while you bake or cook

♥ add paper or fabric bunting to any room you can...you can never have too much bunting!

♥ put fresh flowers in a vase to add some cheer to your home...even in the wintertime

♥ if it snows, go outside and play!

♥ and if it's rainy, go jump in some puddles...you're never too old to be silly!

♥ make a stovetop potpourri with orange wedges, cinnamon sticks, a splash of vanilla and water...simmer all day long, adding water as needed.

simple everyday ways to love yourself a bit more ♥

  

Everyone deserves to show themselves love and daily rituals are one of the most practical and best ways to do so. While some may think of a day at the spa getting a massage or their nails done as "loving themselves", that sounds like hell to me, so I go about loving myself a bit differently. Of course, this is as unique as everyone of us, so my ideas are things that I enjoy, but I do hope that my ideas get your own wheels turning as you perhaps compile a list of things that you can implement into your daily life to love yourself a little bit more. (If you journal, this would make for a fun journaling afternoon!) 

1. a calming morning rhythm

All of my life, in our home, we've made it a MUST that our mornings are slow and calm and easy. We avoid schedules and time frames as much as we can, only engaging in such things when we simply cannot avoid them. Our mornings and start of the day are slow and gentle. We do not rush to begin our day, nor do we get dressed as soon as our feet hit the floor. In our home, we cannot get going full speed ahead as soon as our eyes open. I think it's important, even if you do have to be on a more scheduled routine, to make your mornings and start of the day as calm and gentle as possible. Wake up earlier if you need to so you can slowly wake up in bed for ten minutes or so before getting ready for the day. Whatever it means for you, I think gentle mornings really set the tone for the entire day ahead.

Also another huge thing for me is making sure that the alarm I wake up to isn't going to jolt me awake. I can't stand the blare and siren-like sound of a normal alarm, so I use a soothing instrumental piece and it wakes me up in a calm manner. Those blaring noises make me wake up on the wrong side of the bed and set me in the wrong mood for the whole day and really make me feel anxious and uptight, but a soothing piece of music is quite a lovely way to wake up.

2. a peaceful bedtime rhythm

Sleep has been something I've struggled with since I was very young. I don't have a magic potion for making one sleep like a baby...I'm quite jealous of folks who can do such a thing. And most nights, sleep is something my body struggles with, but I do have a few things that help me. Every night, I spend some time before bed doing something calming, whether it be reading a novel or a calming magazine, watching an episode of a show I love, or even sometimes writing in my journals, I make sure that I end my day with something light, pleasant and gentle (the most important word, perhaps, when it comes to loving yourself). I go through phases of having a cup of tea before bed, too, which is really something I should get better at. Keeping lights low and using low wattage bulbs makes for an atmosphere that invites sleepiness to take over. I always make sure to have a nighttime or calming essential oil blend going in my diffuser and keep my salt lamp on because I do like a tad bit of light in the dark. Then, I avoid my phone because it really wakes me up. I don't have anything that works for me 100%, but these things do make a difference. (I also use my oils every night, but more on that below.)

3. slow showers or baths

I mentioned in a post once before that if there was a way to get clean without having to take a shower, I'd be totally down for it. I hate water and getting wet. It's just terrible. Ha! But I like being clean and so showers are a must. And so I figure I might as well make it a pleasant experience. Baths do not sound at all appealing to me, quite the opposite, actually, so showers it is. I make it a point not to rush when I am in the shower or once I get out either. I take my time and breathe deeply. I use soaps and such that are healthy for my skin and enjoy their lovely scent. And I do love a hot, steamy shower...no cold water for this gal. When I am getting dressed, I will often use a wonderful product called "goop" by a company called "All Good" and give my feet a massage...this stuff works wonders on dry skin in the colder weather, and on sunburn, too. I apply essential oils and braid my hair for bed. (I do love nighttime showers right before bed; I can never understand the enjoyment of a morning shower.) And I make sure to put on comfy pajamas that feel good on my skin. So even though showers are not my most favorite thing on the planet, it becomes a pleasant experience and I am loving myself through the process, too. 

4. essential oil rituals

Essential oils have been part of my life for several years now, but it's only been in the last year or so that I've finally found the oils that work for me. I have a few roller bottles that I have made, and I use them for different purposes on various parts of my body. I have a calming blend that I made myself with geranium, lavender and rosemary oils that I apply to my forearm and wrist area as well as over my heart. I also use a calming blend that I apply to my neck. And I use a straight up lavender and coconut oil roller on parts of my body that tend to stay tense. This girl here deals with tension and anxiety regularly. I also made a wellness roller blend that I apply to the bottoms of my feet before putting socks on (yes, I love sleeping in socks!) and it is good especially this time of year. I apply these to my body twice a day, rarely skipping a day. And they are magic!

5. fresh air

One of the ways that I am focusing on loving myself right now is by adding daily time in nature to my daily rhythms. I used to be so good about this, but over the last few years, I've really gotten out of this rhythm. At least 20-30 minutes a day, outside, breathing in the fresh air. Doesn't matter if it's day or night, if the sun accompanies me or the moon and stars. I just need to breathe in fresh air. Nature is the ultimate healer and our souls are filled everytime we step outside to join the earth in her bountiful beauty. Not to mention the world of good it does our minds. When the weather is cooler this time of year, I also make a point to take a stroll around the block. So fresh air it is!

6. rest and relaxation

It is vital that we have times of rest and relaxation. Even if it's just for 30 minutes, our bodies, minds and souls crave this. These moments are not a waste of time, nor are they to be neglected. Many of the ideas here could very well fit under this category of "rest and relaxation"...

7. positive circles

This one is a bit sensitive, but one that I feel to be of utmost importance. And I speak from personal experience.

Protect your peace.

This is something I have experienced firsthand and know all too well what this damage to the mind, heart and soul looks and feels like. With that said, it is so important that we have positive circles around us. People and ideals that are filled with light and beauty and goodness. Beliefs that don't cause us to have to spend years recovering from them. Sometimes you have to step away from that which may be labelled "right" or "good" in order to find what is actually right and good...so that you can find the beautiful. And you do not need to feel guilt from making this change. Let that burden of guilt leave you right away; embrace the goodness and freedom that comes from walking, finally, in a way that brings you good things.

Sometimes the very way you can love yourself is to step away from these people and circles.

This also applies to people around you. If someone is a negative aspect of your life, they must go. Even if you've known them forever. Even if they are regularly in your life. Even if they are family. This is also something I know about in a very personal way. You only need people in your life who are going to respect you, encourage you, uplift you, laugh with you. If they're not adding something positive to your life, it's time to bid them farewell. As I heard on Hannah Montana as a teen, you just go right on and tell them, "Don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya!" And you go on your merry way. It can be hard, it can break relationships forever, it will be an emotional road. But it is worth it. Your peace is worth it. You are worth it.

8. healthy eating

Eating home-cooked healthy meals is about as good as it gets. Especially when you prepare the meal with those you love most. Of course, having treats here and there is fine, too...and even those can be healthy. I'm someone who believes in moderation and everything in balance. I've tried more strict, rigid, and restrictive ways of eating int he past and it doesn't work for me. Making sure to use the best ingredients possible and making mealtime a magical experience with candles, loved ones, conversation, and laughter is important, too.

9. slow days

Having slow days is good for the soul. There are many ideas for this, but one of my personal favorites is my family's soup and bread Sundays. Every Sunday, we have some sort of homemade soup (or stew or chili, etc.) simmering on the stove all evening long...and some sort of homemade bread baking in the oven. Then, after darkness falls outside, we sit down, and feast. It is a wonderfully slow and gentle Sunday and honestly couldn't be more perfect. And oh so fun!

10. unplug 

I cannot tell you the goodness I have found since I unplugged from social media a couple years ago. (I still have Instagram but use it totally differently than I did previously.) I knew it would be good for me and have positive benefits but I didn't have any idea just HOW good it would be and how MANY positive benefits I would discover. Honestly, I cannot think of any good thing that comes from social media and would strongly encourage anyone to just delete their accounts (or at the very least, use them as minimally as possible, because I know there are good things there that you may enjoy; I do, but I am very conscious about how I use it now), and move on. You will find LIFE again and so much goodness. This is by far one of the best ways you can love yourself...you won't miss it, trust me!

Also, you don't need your phone attached to you every minute of the day. Honestly, it is quite ridiculous how much some people use their phones. I think they are really only necessary if you are making or taking a phone call or text. If you are using it for some other reason, ask yourself if it is really necessary or a good use of your time. Is it causing you stress or making you ignore those around you? There are times when using your phone to look something up is beneficial and good, but most of people's time spent on their phone is quite absurd if you ask me. 

11. avoid the news

I am really trying to get better about this one, because my anxious mind sometimes must know everything that's going on in the world. But it's never good for me. The news is a certain trigger for stress and no one needs to be engaged all the time. You don't need to know everything that's going on in the world at every minute of the day. If there is something going on in the world that you need to know about, you will. Just avoid the news as much as possible; your mind will thank you.

12. meditate and affirmations

These are both somewhat new to me, but I think they are excellent things to implement into your daily rituals. Meditating can be as simple as taking a walk outside in the garden and appreciating the earth and her wisdom and beauty. Or it could also be quietly listening to soothing music whilst washing the dishes or folding laundry. It can be pausing for five minutes to breathe deeply and clear your mind of intrusive thoughts. Repeating affirmations to yourself can be comforting, encouraging and also, well, affirming. 

13. trust your intuition

In many circles, we are taught not to trust ourselves and that our hearts will lead us in bad ways. And that, my friend, is simply a lie. A downright, and dangerous, lie. Trusting your intuition and following your heart's leading is so important. Your intuition is a gift you have; trust it, use it, be grateful for it. And your heart is leading you to your destiny. Allow it to guide you along life's journey and be open to its gentle leading. It can take time when you've been told for so long that these things are wrong or bad, but little by little, step by step, you will begin to trust yourself again...like you did when you were a little girl. And bit by bit, your heart will heal from all the lies you've been fed and your heart will begin to feel better. You'll trust it and you'll follow its leading. You will stop doubting yourself and as you are gentle with yourself, that trust will return.

14. take yourself and life less seriously...laugh and have fun

Seriously. Laugh at yourself sometimes. Not sometimes, most of the time. If you make a mistake or are clumsy, just laugh it off. I am quite clumsy and have to laugh at myself often. I am also a total dork so life gives me the opportunity to take myself less seriously often. Laugh as much as possible. And surround yourself with people who love to laugh their butts off...they make life a whole lot more fun and interesting. I think we would all be happier if we just started taking ourselves and life less seriously.

 Discover ways to have fun. Us grown-ups can seem to forget what it actually means to have fun. Get rid of any ideas or feelings of being embarrassed by the things that make you happy. One thing I've learned is that the older I get, I am returning to things that I was ashamed to admit that I liked in my teenage years, but that I really, really loved. (And still do!) This past summer, I made a HUGE playlist of tons of songs that I loved as a child and teenager as well as songs that I just love for whatever reason and songs that have a nostalgic feel to me. I can't tell you just how amazingly, awesomely fun it has been to listen to it! And guess what? I LOVE One Direction music. I did as an older teen and young 20-something year old and have ever since, but now I am unashamed to admit it. I will shout from the rooftop without any shame: "I LOVE ONE DIRECTION! AND MERMAIDS! AND HELLO KITTY! AND POOH BEAR! AND I BELIEVE IN SANTA CLAUS! AND I STILL CAN'T EVER SLEEP WHEN SNOW IS ON THE WAY!" Because they make me endlessly happy. And the same goes with many other things. Find what makes you happy, embrace it without embarrassment, and just have fun! 

15. delighting in art

Art in any shape or form is perfect for showing yourself some love. Delighting in a good book or listening to some fun music and dancing, even if you're terrible at it. Watching a favorite movie or show, adding beautiful art pieces to your walls, or whatever it is that you love...fill your life with art. Attend plays and musicals and concerts that inspire and fill you up to overflowing. They literally can't be beaten! Peruse bookshops and art displays. Ask others with similar tastes what they love and get ideas from them. Art is lifegiving and soul-filling and that's what loving yourself is all about.

16. hobbies

Taking the time to invest and enjoy hobbies is also lifegiving and soul-filling. When we take the time to paint, sew, knit or crochet, cook or bake, garden, read, journal, embroider, play music, write, do puzzles, play card or board games, or whatever else it may be, we are investing in something we love. These hobbies are so much more than simply ways we spend time; they are what make us who we are. 

17. comfy clothing

One of the ways I love myself is by wearing clothing that I feel comfortable in. I do not spend time worrying about trends or what others are wearing. I wear what I like and what feels good to me. My style is my style and I don't care what others think. I think it's important to wear clothing that you feel good in and that makes you comfortable. Other clothing can make you feel insecure and bad about your body and that's not loving yourself.

18. making a lovely space

In order to thrive and be peaceful, we must be in a space that we find lovely and where we want to be. Making a haven out of your space is crucial. Making it "you" and filling it with things that you cherish or enjoy or simply love because they are beautiful are not only fun, but can also become a hobby, too. Your space, no matter how big or small, should be cozy and warm and comfortable. It should be as homey as can be...you should love being there and when you're not there, you should miss it terribly. This space should be a comfort to your soul.

19. avoiding and decreasing stress

I think it is wise to avoid stress whenever possible. Guard your life and who you allow in, guard your home and who you allow in, guard your mind and who you allow to influence you. Don't be afraid to say NO. You don't owe anyone an explanation for how you live your life. Stop trying to explain yourself to idiots and just walk on. Stress shouldn't be something we seek out and yet too often, by our choices and decisions, it's almost as if we are chasing it down.

20. you are enough, you are perfect, you are beautiful 

Remind yourself often that you are enough, you are perfect, and you are beautiful. Just the way you are. No matter what number you see on the scale or the number inside your jeans. No matter your personality or quirks or sensitivities. No matter if you are quiet or outgoing. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you and you don't need to constantly work on yourself. You are enough just as you are...stop trying to tell yourself otherwise. You aren't too much or too little; you are just right exactly as you are. You are perfect right now, right here in this moment. Tell yourself these things regularly and allow your mind, heart and soul to actually believe it. Stop criticizing yourself...whether it be about your personality, your body or whatever. Start talking kindly to and about yourself...no more negative talk. Start loving yourself today, right now, as you are. Because you, my friend, are enough, you are perfect and you are beautiful. Yes, YOU! 

What are some of the daily rituals you enjoy? How do you love yourself? Do share below!

 May your week be blissful, dear reader friends!

♥

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{{an autumnal photo from a few years back}}

There is magic in the night when pumpkins glow by moonlight.

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October greetings, dear friends!

My heart is filled with such happiness as I look out my window to a tree filled with golden goodness. Autumnal beauty is slowly creeping up all around us...our nights have been so cool and crisp, and the leaves are surely becoming all the more beautiful because of it. Driving through town and running errands becomes a feast for the eyes as so many trees are boasting gorgeous shades of gold and crimson red and bright orange pumpkins are on front porches and doorsteps everywhere. Halloween decorations are out in full swing, too. Autumn is really, truly, finally here and I couldn't be more grateful for this season and all the beauty, coziness and fun it brings.

Halloween has been a favorite holiday of mine since I was a little girl. Dressing up each year and going around the neighborhood with friends (and our parents, for safety) is one of the most wonderful memories of my childhood. I was a black witch for many of those years, simply because I loved the costume so much. However, I did also dress up as a bride one year and as a nurse another. And even though I'm "all grown up" now, I still love celebrating Halloween and enjoying some festive spooky fun all month long.

Throughout October, I love popping in a spooky movie every few nights. I grew up with all of the titles I'm going to share, so they truly are perfect timeless movies for anyone of any age to enjoy. I don't do anything horror-related, so no need to worry about scaring the bejeebers out of yourself. These are just good, festive movies with a touch of some spooky fun and oodles of Halloween vibes.

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Halloweentown

Halloweentown 2: Kalabar's Revenge

Halloweentown High 

The Halloweentown series has been a favorite in our house since the movies debuted when I was a little girl. We have watched them most years since and they remain a tradition that cannot be missed. Halloweentown is one of the coolest fictional towns and I just love how festive everything about these movies is. There is a fourth movie in this series, but we didn't care for it, so we just stick with the original three.

Double, Double, Toil and Trouble

Okay, so I grew up in the era of the Olsen twins. I've watched literally every single one of their movies at least a handful of times. And their Halloween one is definitely a Top 3 favorite for me. It heavily evokes nostalgia and memories of my childhood and it's just so darn fun to watch. Again, a yearly tradition in our house that we can't miss!

Hocus Pocus 

I'll admit that I watch this one purely for nostalgia and all the festive Halloween vibes. Personally, I don't think it's the best movie out there and I much prefer the storylines of the other titles I've shared. But this one is just so Halloween-ish that I enjoy watching it for that reason. And no, I haven't seen the newest one...and I'm not going to. I don't like messing with classics and all that.

Harry Potter

So, Harry Potter for me is perfect for all the cozy months and holidays...autumn and winter alike, Halloween and Christmas equally. So, I love just watching them sporadically and slowly throughout these months of early evenings, cold weather outside, cozy home comforts and warmth inside. They're about as perfect as it can get...but I'm sure most of you already know that much.

Casper

These movies from the 90s are ones that I remember watching during my childhood. These are just fun and perfect for the entire family. And the best part is that there are a few movies in this series.

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Another way I love to spend my evenings in October is by watching all the Halloween episodes of a couple favorite shows. There aren't too many shows that have lots of seasonal episodes, especially nowadays. I really love the way certain shows make a point and have a festive Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Valentine's Day episode, and even better are the shows that follow a seasonal or yearly pattern. The Middle and Home Improvement are two shows that do these festive episodes wonderfully. In the entire series, there are a handful of Halloween episodes and every single one is unique and different and just as fun and festive as the others. Some other shows that have a couple Halloween episodes are Full House and 7th Heaven. Oh, and Reba has one of the best Halloween episodes E V E R !! These, too, have been favorites of mine since I was very young.

Finally, when it comes to watching festive things, we love cozy mysteries in our home. Hallmark does a few of these series so well. And October, as well as all these autumn and winter months, just call for a good cozy mystery in the evenings with a snack and mug of tea alongside trying to figure out "who done it". Our favorites are...

Aurora Teagarden

Garage Sale Mysteries

Chronicle Mysteries

Murder, She Baked

Mystery 101

And we absolutely adore Agatha Raisin, a new-to-us favorite that we discovered earlier this year. It's such a fun and quirky one!

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As far as Halloween reading goes, I've not yet found many stories that I love enough to share. However, a real favorite of mine and one I never tire of sharing about is First Frost by Sarah Addison Allen. It is the most perfect October read, as it goes through nearly the entire month and ends on Halloween night with a special party to celebrate the first frost. It's not entirely Halloween-ish, but I still think it's the best. Magical, enchanted, mysterious, and lots of small-town charm and autumnal festivities make this book even more of a beloved favorite of mine. Seriously, if you haven't read it, you simply must. And one can't forget the Harry Potter books. Again, perfect for all these cozy months. Mystery books just seem so suitable for this time of year, too. I've enjoyed slowly gathering a collection of cozy mysteries over the past year...nothing too scary or gory for this gal. 

And, fellow book lovers, if you have any Halloween novels that you've enjoyed, please let me know. I'd love to add some to my list to try out next year. I love middle grade books as well as just general adult fiction. Not too much into the YA books, personally. 

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And finally, our October concludes on Halloween night with a cozy meal and festive seasonal dessert. Chili is always a go-to and some sort of apple or pumpkin home baked treat. We just hang out at home, enjoy a yummy Halloween feast, and watch movies or some festive episodes of a show whilst we munch on our dessert and hot tea or hot apple cider. It's casual, comfy, cozy and lots of fun.   

When I was little, my mom would always prepare a cozy meal, usually chili or something along those lines, and we would eat before going out trick-or-treating. I'll be honest, though, and say that I remember my sister and I not eating more than just a couple bites of dinner. We were so excited to meet our neighbor friends and join them and their parents in trick-or-treating, as was our yearly tradition. Just as soon as it was dark enough, we would set out with one of our parents, with the other one staying back at home to give out candy. They usually took turns every year. Our friends' parents did the same. Earlier in the evening (before my dad got home from work and before it got dark), my mom would us to my both sets of grandparents' houses to show off our costumes and trick-or-treat at their homes. And one year, we went to my aunt and uncle's house for the same reason and my uncle took us around his neighborhood, which was way bigger than ours, and we racked up big time in the candy department! Then we'd come home, put a Halloween movie on TV (usually), and go through our candy, always with our parents begging for a piece or two of their favorites. Ha! It was so much fun!

Oh, and we always carve a jack-o'-lantern. Usually, we like for our pumpkins to last until Thanksgiving, so we usually just carve one of our pumpkins. Last year, we bought a mini pumpkin to carve and it was the cutest. But when I was younger, that was a yearly stand-by. An absolute must! My dad would carve out the designs my sister and I drew on and then we'd place a candle inside, turn out the lights and all stand around and admire the glowing faces of our pumpkins. Halloween night was literally the best fun ever growing up...second only to Christmas and waiting for Santa to come and seeing all the surprises under the tree. Utter magic!

(You can read about our cozy, homey Halloween last year HERE.)

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Well, that's all my Halloween favorites, dear readers! I would love to hear your traditions for Halloween and any recommendations you have for festive movies, shows, books, activities...so do please share in a comment or message.

May your day be magical and filled with delight...