gently tending to your home

Homemaking is a gift. It's a way to express love for your family and home, and yourself, too. It's a sacred calling and a worthy, important line of work. It is a lifelong career and a pleasure. Yet, lies from the enemy and our culture tells us that homemaking is a burden or curse. That is it a waste of time and only fit for a brainless woman. The truth is, it's the complete opposite of that. It is far from a waste of time and it is a most worthy career choice. It is not a burden or curse, but a blessing and a gift and a joy. And, finally, those who delight in the work of homemaking are intelligent, creative, resourceful, clever, imaginative, among many other traits.

Homemaking is something that is near and dear to my heart and I am incredibly passionate about the work of making, keeping and tending a home. On top of that, I believe that the home is the center of the cozy life. I believe there is tremendous joy and beauty and wonder to be found in the world of home. I believe that the work done there is sacred and important and necessary and beautiful. And I wish to encourage fellow homemakers in their calling.

In living a slower, softer, gentler life, you quickly find that when you slow down and do things in a gentler manner, not rushing about or hurrying about, you will actually get far more done in the long run. It is only when you slow down that you can actually get anything done well. When we are trying to do ten things at once and are hurrying through each task, nothing is getting done well. And there is little to no delight to be found when one is rushing about. But when you take your time and are present with the task you are working on, you not only get it done well, you can actually find delight, even in the most "mundane" task. 

 

The slower, gentler way brings change to the way you clean and tend to a home in that way. But it also brings change to the way you prepare food and enjoy a mealtime around your table. "There is something so sacred about taking the time to prepare the food and making a whole ceremony out of it. There is this notion that we have to constantly be on the go, always busy, chasing this or that all the time, but we can't realize or appreciate the simplicity of just simple, everyday living. And then making that simple, everyday living quite unique and special."

 Living slower and gentler affects every aspect of your life. You are able to truly see, taste, hear, feel and smell everything that is around you. It is only when you slow down that you can become alive to the beauty, wonder and splendour of the world. "We are doing so many things and multitasking, but we're not actually efficiently doing one thing. Say no. Focus on what you're doing in the present moment. You'll actually be doing the things better when you slow down and you'll be able to see more clearly." The secret to truly living is to slow down and savour, to live gently and to notice, to live softly and be kind to yourself and others. This is also living simply because you are only saying yes to the things that are worth your time and energy and only those things that are lifegiving and important and meaningful. When we say no to all those other things, distractions and temptations, we can truly and fully invest in that which is good and beautiful in our lives. 

Homemaking is one of those good and beautiful things. One of those things that we should want to heavily invest ourselves in. And it doesn't have to be something you dread or think of as a burden. When we root ourselves in gratitude, our hearts change and our perspective s are refreshed and we see, even the cleaning chores, as a blessing to our family, ourselves and our homes. I once heard that cleaning and tidying a home is self-care to the home, and I really liked that perspective. Cleaning doesn't have to be a chore; instead, it can be something that you are grateful you get to do. It can even be relaxing and peaceful if it is kept simple and done gently. "Be grateful instead of looking at it as a chore or burdensome task. If you do a little bit often, you'll have much less work to do than if you let it go and get out of hand. It's not about how clean your house is or how much you clean the house, but about the care you put into what you do in your home. Be present and give thanks as you go."

Dear ones, may you see homemaking as the gift it is. May your slow down and savour and live gently so you can notice the beauty in front of you. May you see the value and purpose in the small things you do in hidden corners. May you plant your hearts in gratitude so they can be transformed as you go about caring and tending to your home. And may you find delight, pleasure, magic and wonder in the grand world of home!

♥

*Quotes from Niamh of Fairyland Cottage.* 

a fresh beginning

My darling girl, when are you going to realize

that being normal isn't necessarily a virtue?

It rather denotes a lack of courage.

~ Practical Magic ~

Summer is slowly collapsing into autumn. And autumn brings with it a wind of fresh beginnings and new refreshment. And for me, that includes a bit of a fresh beginning on my wee blog here.

As you may well notice, I have blogged a lot less this year than in the past. I've been blogging for almost nine years and in those years, I have grown and changed and grown some more. I've shifted in this or that thinking, returning to my soul's truth and the real me deep within has slowly been crawling out of her shell. And then, I've grown even more and have learned about myself in countless ways. In lots of ways, I have blogging to thank for at least part of that journey. A journey which I am still on...I think we always are on a similar sort of journey. 

And autumn is the perfect reminder of how beautiful it is to let the things which are no longer bringing us good go. 

No, I didn't change. I just remembered who I really was.

This isn't a temporary phase.

I worked hard to find me.

I shifted through layer after layer of

bullshit stories I had been told about who I should be

and finally became who I was meant to be.

~ Brooke Hampton ~

The past two years have been especially challenging in this journey for me. I have been sifting through so much in my mind. I came to realize that so much of what I was receiving from the online world was incredibly toxic and damaging for my mind and heart and soul. This goes for the things people have to say about love and relationships, family life and home culture, religious beliefs and systems, styles of parenting and schooling children, dreams and longings, and so much more. It was getting to me in ways that I didn't even realize and affecting my mindset. It brought about doubts and depression, questioning of all sorts and feeling as though the world was just one big fat dark rain cloud. I had lost sight and knowing that there is beauty, goodness and magic out there. All over the place. I had to do something about it.

And this summer, I finally found freedom. 

I deleted my social media accounts and haven't looked back once. Not even for a fraction of a second. It was literally the best thing ever! And I no longer read the blogs I used to. I have a couple special ones that I dearly love and enjoy, and those I do frequent regularly. But all the toxic garbage isn't allowed in my life anymore. (And this was strictly something I dealt with online, not in my real in-person life.) The internet has so much garbage that at times, it can be hard to sift through to find the gems of goodness. But they are out there.

Life is simple and so much more enjoyable 

when you stop trying to explain yourself to idiots.

Just be real about what works best for you,

and then keep rollin' on down the road.

~ Brooke Hampton ~

And with all of that, came a time to make a decision about my blog. You see, a good number of my previous posts represent things that I no longer believe in or stand by 100%. I debated what to do for quite some time. I decided that I would remove the posts where the majority of the contents were things I could no longer stand by and leave the ones where those were just minor, unimportant things. And instead of beginning a brand new blog, because honestly, I love this corner and space I've built here, I decided to stay right where I'm at. So Ponderings from the Inglenook will remain and continue as it is. And I'm looking forward to adding more posts regularly. A fresh beginning of sorts. Just as summer falls into autumn.

You're right.

I am more than a little weird and a bit awkward.

No, I don't fit in and most people don't understand me.

But at least I'm being real and I think the world

needs more people brave enough to be real.

~ Brooke Hampton ~

I hope you'll stick around this corner...

I have several posts coming up soon that I'm looking forward to sharing.

Over the last few weeks, I've come up with a couple new smoothie recipes that

have become daily favorites in our home and I want to share them with you.

I'm also going to be sharing about the books I read over the summer at

the end of the month...

and I'm just beginning to start writing my annual October 31 day series.

The theme has been decided and I'm over the moon excited about it.

A little hint: if you enjoyed last year's COZY theme, you'll love this year's theme, too!

So there are some fun things to look forward to as autumn slowly inches closer.

Are you excited for this coming season? I'm beside myself with anticipation at the beauty this season holds!

With all that said, I want to say Happy September to you, dear readers...

and I hope you'll stick around.

Lots of cozy fun coming up very, very, very soon.

♥

P.S.- How do you like the new autumn header for my blog? 

I always have the best fun designing a header for this favorite season of mine. {{smiles}}

Cultivating Peace, Calm, & Quiet In a World Gone Mad

These recent days have been heavy. With all the political turmoil and worldwide pandemic still being a very real thing, it can all just seem too much at times. Am I right?

When the world is going mad, what can you do? I don’t think there is a black and white answer to that question. We all react to stress and anxiety in different ways. But may I, as someone who very much gets and understands anxiety, offer a few suggestions that I try to bring into my days.

Firstly, live quietly. You don’t have to give in to the world’s madness nor do you have to take part in every conversation out there. Secondly, protect your peace. Turn off the news and remove negative voices from your life. Next tend your own garden. Your space is where you are needed, not anywhere else. Don’t go sticking your nose in everyone’s business or spend your precious time dwelling on others’ opinions on things, especially controversial topics. Then, fill your cup. Seek to pour goodness into your own life as much as you can. Whether it be a creative outlet, a book you’re reading, a movie that makes you laugh, a walk in nature, or whatever else, fill your own cup. Then pour that goodness into those around you. Don’t forget to be gentle with yourself and others. Remove that unnecessary guilt or pressure. Some days you will do more than others and that’s okay. Next go outdoors and look around you. This world is alive and beautiful and still full of so much goodness. Remind yourself of that often. Also, make sure you take yourself lightly and don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself. Be lighthearted and enjoy life’s moments. Make room for whimsy in your ordinary days and make your everyday tasks fun.

Sometimes this seeking and cultivating peace, calm and quiet in a world gone mad looks like blaring your favorite songs in the car with the windows open and taking a drive through the countryside, where everything is peaceful and you feel like you're a million miles away from the crazy. Other times it means going through a stack of books within a week and finding solace among your favorite characters and their stories, sometimes familiar ones and other times, new. It may mean escaping to a faraway land of your imagination through the words of a beloved author or a movie that whisks you away to a place beautiful and magical and full of wonder. Sometimes, it may mean you put your phone away for a day, or two...or ten, and don't look at the news. 

It means creating a world just the way you want right where you are. Filling your life with that which you know to be good and lovely and lifegiving. I believe that everyone should have such a world, wherever you are. If it's a tiny room or a grand mansion or a cabin in the woods or a cottage in the countryside, that is your world. Make it as lovely and beautiful as you can. Bring in as much magic and whimsy and wonder as you can. Positivity, goodness and laughter should fill the walls up to overflowing. This is not a naive attempt to ignore what's happening in the world, but quite honestly, you don't need to engage in the world 24/7. And your world should be your safe place, your haven, your cozy corner of the world. Without the noise, news, madness and insanity of the world.

Take a lesson from nature. The earth is always going through her cycles and seasons, no matter how nutty the world is or how insane people seem. Everything in nature remains the same and steady. Summer follows spring and autumn follows summer. Spring always comes after winter and this repeats year after year. In nature, nothing is complicated or rushed. Everything gets accomplished and all is beautiful in its time. Mother Earth is a kind and gentle teacher. When I stand outside and look around me, the trees are standing tall and proud and their leaves are lush and green and full. Summer is here and yet, there are tastes of autumn in the air. No matter how crazy the world gets, it is comforting to know and see that the earth is steady and consistent. Breathe in fresh air, drink up the sunshine, walk in the rain, feel the earth. It is healing, it is lifegiving and it is soul-filling. Nothing else compares.

This whole finding peace, calm and quiet thing doesn't mean that you are ignorant to the world's madness, but it means that you value your wellbeing and the wellbeing of those around you more than the news. You can very well know what is happening in the world without it consuming you. And might I add one thing here...if you have little children around you, please be cautious of what kind of news they are hearing. Children should not be burdened with the world. They should live in as much innocence to the world's craziness and horrors as possible. When they are of proper age, their understanding will come and they will take enough of the world's craziness in. But childhood is not that time. And quite frankly, we "grown-ups" would do well to learn from these children...to step into their wonder of the world and see things as magical as much as possible. I firmly believe that it is those people who are truly living, not the ones with their noses in everyone's business, or their heads constantly being filled with news and headlines and certainly not with their phones practically glued to their fingertips.

There’s no quick fix for anxiety or stress, and when the world is going mad, it makes it harder to find peace in your days. One step at a time, one day at a time, one small choice at a time. Nothing is a waste; it all makes a difference. The small moments of peace will turn into bigger, longer moments and soon, you’ll find the light again. Better days aren’t gone forever and the spring will return again. It always has, it always will.

Dear one, I wrote these words first to myself back as the new year was beginning. Sometimes I find that what I once wrote needs to be read again and again. I need to remind myself of these things often, probably daily. And I'm sharing them here today because I have a feeling that I'm not the only one feeling the weight of the world. If you are one of those souls who feels all these things too, please know you are not alone and I get it. One tiny step in the right direction is better than any step in the wrong direction. And the direction we're going towards is peace, calm and quiet...with a hearty dose of beauty, whimsy and wonder along the journey, too.

May your day be a magical one...and may you see the rainbow at the other side of the world's madness.

Stories, Fictional Friends, & Us

Stories have the power to influence us. They have the power to affect us, touch us in unspeakable ways, make us feel as though we aren't alone, and teach us something important and sometimes, profound. Stories bring beauty into our ordinary days and invite us to join in on adventures that take us to lands both real and imagined. They allow us to see things like a child again and inspire us towards a magical, imaginative and beautiful way of living. Stories also introduce us to some of the kindest friends, the dearest folks and the most kindred of spirits.

Stories come in different shapes and sizes and even various forms. Sometimes, stories are told through paper and ink in the form of a book. Other stories are told through song or with the help of theatre actors who bring the characters to life. And, still, there are some stories that are told through the screen, whether it be on television or a movie.

And today, I'd like to invite you into some of my favorite on-screen stories and the characters who have been bright lights and kindred spirits to me.

There are some movies or shows that I like to watch for the overall enjoyment of what it offers. It's not that they don't bring that kindred spirit-ness, but it's just that that isn't the main aspect of the show for me. Gilmore Girls, Letters to Juliet, and Downton Abbey are like that for me. They are comforting to me and enjoyable to watch, but there isn't a particular character that I feel a kinship with. Today's post is about those kindred spirit characters.

Kindness is found in overwhelming supply in Sister Julienne from Call the Midwife. She is a mainstay of the show and the heart of Nonnatus House in many ways. Her fellow nuns and the other midwives look to her for guidance and wisdom and gentle compassion. The folks of Poplar see her as a comforting touch and a safe place as she lovingly and sincerely cares for them and their families. I echo the words of Sarah Clarkson..."When I grow up, I hope I get to be a little like Sister Julienne. I love the way that people instantly feel calmed and hopeful, even safe when she arrives. What a marvel of a thing to offer in this uncertain old world." She speaks softly and serves others graciously, and I think that's something to be admired.

I am also fond of Chummy who brings a genuineness and down-to-earth approach to her midwifery, along with her kind personality and sweet heart. Shelagh is compassionate and also soft-spoken, always lending a hand and being sensitive to those around her, particularly her patients. Barbara is quite possibly my favorite midwife from the entire series. I love how real and sincere she is, along with being dedicated to her midwifery and the families she serves. She is a girl-next-door kind of gal and I just like her a lot. Phyllis brings that no bullshit attitude, which I appreciate and admire. But along with that, she is genuinely caring for those around her and wants to be there whenever she can. And finally, I can't forget to mention Sister Monica Joan. She brings a bit of comedy to the scene, but oftentimes, the wisest of words. I don't think Nonnatus House would be the same without her.

Annie Camden from 7th Heaven has always been a role model of sorts for me. She is a minster's wife, mother to seven children of a wide variety of ages, a friend, neighbor and never one to back away from helping others. She cooks meals for her family daily and often brings an extra plate or two to the table for guests who either pop by or are in need of support in some way. Her feet hit the ground running from the moment she wakes up and she doesn't stop until bedtime. Her love for her family runs deep and her heart for home is steadfast. She isn't afraid to get her hands dirty and is often the one who does the repairs and handy work at home, and she is always learning something new to add to her long list of skills and talents. I have long since seen her as a wonderful example of a homemaker, wife and mother. 

I've always walked to the beat of my own drum, so to speak. With living that way, you can bet I've had my fair share of criticisms and mocking and bullying in school...and out. Sue Heck from The Middle came along when I was an older teenager and brought that "you're not the only one" reassurance to my life. She is a one-of-a-kind sort of gal. She dresses in her own way and isn't afraid to wear something because it may be "childish" or far out or not what is popular. She isn't afraid to add glitter to her notebooks and believes that people are born with good hearts. She firmly holds the belief that smiling is contagious and isn't afraid to prove that on frequent occasions. She is kind and sweet and holds onto her girlhood innocence and sees the world with such a magical perspective. I always feel as though I have a lot to learn from her about life and being comfortable with being myself because that's the best person I can be.

Julie and Julia is one of my all-time favorite movies. It's one that I watch over and over again and never tire of. Julia Child is someone who brings simple, but beautiful lessons with her in the movie. Perhaps the greatest one is that you are never too old to learn something new, even if others say you can't do it. She wants to learn how to cook and so she does. She wants to write a cookbook and so she does. Neither one comes without hiccups and challenges, and often discouragement, but she persists and keeps on carrying on. There are so many things I want to learn and when I think of her, I am reminded that there is always time and every day is an opportunity to try something new. And, of course, I couldn't forget that she also reminds me to laugh at myself and take myself lightly, to have fun and learn new things with a "what the hell!" sort of attitude. And I think that's awfully powerful when so much of the world is stiff and seems to have an allergy to this way of thinking.

Frances in Under the Tuscan Sun brought beauty to ordinary spaces as she renovated an old Italian villa in the countryside of Italy. She found friendship in some unusual places as she served food and shared meals with her construction crew. She made a home for herself, and prepared a space for those who needed rest and a haven as well. She also prepared the way for her dreams to come true, not having found her soulmate as she began, but surely, he came along a bit later on. She was expecting good, though she did face discouragement and have doubts along the way. Frances reminds me to cultivate beauty, to expect good and to make room for my dreams to come true. Oh, and to feast and laugh and love with those you share life with, too.

Anne Shirley is, without a doubt, the creator of the term kindred spirit. Her belief in beauty, her persistence in pursuing wonder and her imaginative spirit are some of the things that I admire most about our dear Anne girl. She is stubborn and fierce in what she believes to be good and right and isn't afraid to stick her neck out there to fight for what she believes in. She is a good, sincere friend to her Diana, and is loyal to her Marilla and Matthew. She has a hunger for learning and is full of spunk. So much of Anne is opposite to my personality, but one thing we do share in common is our belief that the world is filled to the brim with beautiful, magical, wondrous things and to keep alert for it.  

The March ladies of Little Women are like a kindred spirit circle in and of themselves, and when you watch the movie, you are invited into their closeknit circle...and they welcome you in with gladness, a cup of tea and a biscuit, too. Each of the March sisters brings something different to the table, and I think most people who enjoy the movies, while they have their favorite, can find something in each one of them that they relate to. Whether you have big dreams of becoming a writer like Jo or conquering the world like Amy, or if your dreams are smaller and closer to home like Meg or you simply enjoy the loveliness of ordinary days like Beth (or a bit of this and that), there's something to be found in each one of the sisters to relate to. And Marmee brings that older wisdom, gentle compassion and loving guidance along the way.

The newest kindred spirits in my circle are none other than Harry Potter, Ron Weasley and Hermione Granger. This trio of friends come together on a train to Hogwarts, and unbeknownst to them, are forming a tight friendship that will conquer evil and darkness. They are fiercely loyal to each other, and to the pursuit of good and light. Their friendship isn't without little misunderstandings and annoyances, but their sincere care for one another overcomes all. They are in it together until the end. I love how they are always there for each other, without apology or being ashamed. Their friendship is filled with humor and plenty of laughter, love and care for one another, and loyalty and protection towards the others. 

Each of the characters above is special in their own way. They each remind me of something unique. Each teaches me something new and different and brings that kindred spirit-ness in a variety of ways. Fictional friends and the stories they tell are like lights in the darkness. They are comfort givers and goodness pursuers. The magic they invite us into through their stories is a gift in itself. The beauty they share with the world is powerful and lifegiving. They bring us along for adventures, keep us in on secrets, teach us lessons, and give us a safe place where we aren't weird or strange or awkward, but welcomed just the way we are and celebrated for our uniquenesses. 

And these are my dearest fictional friends, kindred spirits...the on-screen version. Sometime, I'd like to share my novel version of this kindred spirit circle, but to be honest, I'll have to revisit some of those stories to fully remember all the wonderful aspects of the characters. 

I'd love to hear who some of your favorite on-screen kindred spirits are...so do share below!

Winning Social Media's Tug-of-War

“You don't always have to try so hard to live each day to the fullest.

 Each day is full all on its own. All you have to do is notice."

~ Emma Rose Tait ~

I have a love/hate relationship with social media. Well, sort of. 

Mostly, I hate it. And, truthfully, I don't love it at all; I just like it a little. It's one of those things that I have some really strong opinions on. And no, I won't be spilling them here because, honestly, I know I would seriously offend a ton of people and I'm not here to do that. My opinions are things I feel strongly about, things that I believe very firmly, and am quite headstrong on. So that's not what today's post is about. If you were to come round for a cuppa, I would share them more willingly, in the close-knit company of kindred spirits. And if you know me in real life, you know very well what these thoughts are because they've been a topic of conversation often this last while, haven't they?

Today's post is for those of us who feel like we are playing tug-of-war with social media. Like you're on it and then you're not. Then you're on it again. Each time you go back, it's because you miss something good you found there, but when you return, you realize that the bad far outweighs the good and it just isn't worth it. Yeah, that's me. Maybe that's you, too?

For the sake of clarity, whenever I refer to "social media", I am talking about Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, and the like. I am NOT referring to blogging. That is a much more controlled environment and literally the opposite of any of the other sites I mentioned.

Back in December, I bid social media farewell. I still very much feel what I wrote in that post and hold those same desires, beliefs, and thoughts. But, after about three weeks, I began to miss some of the good things that I found on social media. So I returned...a bit nervous and seriously reluctant. The previous eighteen months had shown me that it added negativity, stress, anxiety, and discouraging thoughts to my life. Those are not good things. But I also found a small circle of accounts that I enjoyed following for various reasons. I learned things that appealed to me on a variety of topics. I discovered new books and movies to try that eventually became new favorites. I saved many recipes to make in my own kitchen and had fun with them. Good and bad. Negative and positive. A tug-of-war ensued.

It's been seven months since I returned to Instagram and I'm currently on a break for the summertime. I desperately needed a break. My mind and heart and soul were begging me to step away and I finally listened...after months of being too stubborn to take that step. It's been almost three weeks since my break began, and the thing is...I don't miss it. Not one little bit.

I had originally planned to return at the beginning of autumn, but now? I don't know if I will. I'm taking this time to decide if it is a good thing for me. 

The reason why I like, and prefer, blogging is that I am in total control of what is here. I share what I like and believe in and if others who share those thoughts gather here, that's fine. But also, if I write just for myself and one or two others, that's fine too. With Instagram, when you like an account, others similar to it come up in your search feed...and that's often where the trouble comes in. People also have the option to share posts from other accounts in their "stories" which introduces room for a variety of beliefs and thoughts. Blogs are totally not like that. They are safe and controlled environments. 

I don't have the energy to respond to every single message out there, and social media often makes you feel like you have to. If you follow an account that doesn't mean you agree with everything that person writes or shares. But people assume things about you based on who you follow. And your search feed assumes things too. It gets exhausting having to explain every little thing in order to prevent assumptions from being made about you...which happens often. Social media drains me and sucks all my energy dry. Blogging is fun; social media is hell. 

This splattering of thoughts is to say that social media is a tug-of-war. I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels it...in fact, I know I'm not. I've seen countless people over the last 18 months come and go numerous times for these exact reasons. Maybe you feel this way too? I don't know. But I certainly do. And after this summer break, it's totally undecided at this point if I will go back to it or not. At this point, all I know is that I don't miss it one teeny bit. I've found so much more to do with my time. Like painting and listening to classical music, falling in love with the Harry Potter movies, reading novels slowly to savour every bit, baking bread with my mom and sister, and planning future writing projects for my blog here.

My mind is clearer, my soul free and my heart calm. And it's quite nice. Something I haven't felt in...well, I don't know how long. My sister says that social media is a curse and evil and I'm thinking she may very well be right. I do know that it is the most unauthentic, ingenuine, fake, superficial, stupidest thing that only has a tiny bit of good about it. Simply put, it is a boatload of hell, and this break is making me realize a lot of things. Far more than I even began to share here today.

I know this wasn't the most eloquent or well-organized post, but sometimes your brain just spews thoughts out in a messy sort of way. This was that.

Do you feel the tug-of-war with social media? Have you won the fight and abandoned it completely? Do tell me all the positive things that came from your stepping away from its grasp...I'd love to see if you share the same thoughts as I've come to realize.

Until next time...

May your day be wonder-filled and cheery!

♥

Simple Girl's Diary ♥ Wintertime Favorites Collection 2021

Hello, readers! I am finally getting around to sharing my wintertime favorites collection. Spring is nearly here...just a few more days, so I thought I'd better get to it with my favorites from this past season. In this post, I will be sharing my favorites in a variety of categories including books, TV, movies, music, and homemaking arts. These are the things that have brought me delight and happiness and a bit of magic these last few months. 

Shall we begin?

~ BOOKS ~

Over the winter months, I read some rather lovely and delightful, and immensely whimsical, stories. These stories were such a comfort during the cold wintry nights and added to the coziness that season brings. I loved sitting in my comfy chair with a blanket, or laying in bed all tucked under multiple layers in my warmest jammies, enjoying these stories, often into the wee hours of the morning. I'm a nighttime reader...and these stories were the perfect reads for late at night...gentle, settling, calming, soothing and oh so splendid!

The Tale of Hill Top Farm

What Beatrix loved more than anything else were tiny cottages with crooked roofs, their stone-flogged floors brightened by rag rugs, their ceilings hung with braids of onions and fragrant herbs, the rooms furnished with old-fashioned oak sideboards and grandfather clocks and chairs with woven rush seats. Farmhouses with no pretensions to grandeur, with mullioned windows and thick walls and narrow passages turning and twisting every which way.

(taken from Chapter 5)

This is the first novel in a series of eight mysteries. Beatrix Potter serves as the main character in these stories and in this first book, she has just arrived at Hill Top Farm in order to settle the paperwork and make it officially hers. She befriends some of the village folk and has her animal friends in tow as usual. Over the course of the story, you get to know the village and its people and are immersed in all the cozy English charm that the Lake District holds. You are welcomed into a circle of friends, both human and otherwise...a village dog and a clan of cats as well as several woodland critters that join in along the way. Several mysteries are woven throughout the story and Beatrix and her animal friends work the puzzle until all is well and solved. This was not a gory, creepy mystery full of blood or nightmare-ish scenes. Rather, this was a cozy, gentle sort of mystery...with lots of other storylines woven wonderfully into the book. As I mentioned before, this is the first book in a series of eight, and I loved this one so very much that book two has since been ordered, received and is now awaiting me to pick it up to read. This one is highly recommended by me!

The Brambly Hedge stories

Creating the books is tremendous fun, but very hard work at the same time. This is because I like to get everything right. Each flower must have the correct number of petals and be growing in the right place, at the right time. Everything the mice make or do must be possible for them, living where they do. After all, Brambly Hedge is real, and I am simply here to record it.

(an excerpt from the Introduction by the author of Brambly Hedge, Jill Barklem)

After nearly five years of hearing about the Brambly Hedge series, I finally read these delightful tales this winter. Oh, how I loved them! They were so very whimsical and never before have I wished so much that I lived among the mice in Brambly Hedge. Their quaint little village and the kindness of their friendships and neighbors just makes you want to jump right into the story and make yourself at home. There are eight stories in total, the first four written for each season and the last four just random stories about the mice and their shenanigans. These tales are not just for children; I think they are delightful stories for everyone of all ages! I know just how much I enjoyed them and cannot recommend them enough. I think you, too, may find yourself wishing you lived in Brambly Hedge with some silly mice for your neighbors.

Little House in the Big Woods

At 26 years old, I am finally reading the Little House books. My mom read them for the first time last year, in her early sixties, and now I’m enjoying the stories. I finished book one over the weekend...what a delightful story it was! I loved the family centered-ness, the good old-fashioned values, the traditional crafts and homemaking arts and just the sweetness of everything. It definitely was a quick, easy read...perfect for when you don’t want to have to think too much as you read, if you know what I mean. It’s a very gentle sort of book, which I’m loving these days. One thing did stand out to me, and when my mom and I were talking about the books, she noticed the same thing. The parenting back in the day. Holy cannoli! It was strict, harsh, cold, and dare I say...horrible in many ways! Good grief! Gentle parenting, anyone? Needless to say, I seriously did NOT agree with the way that Pa and Ma Ingalls parented their daughters and I certainly wouldn’t look to these stories for any kind of parenting advice. But other than that, it was a sweet story and I’m looking forward to the rest of the series.

~ TV Shows & Movies ~

Boy, oh boy! I came across some absolutely winning shows this winter! That always makes me so excited! {{smiles}} The first two shows that I fell in love with are Korean dramas, which I have found to be some of my favorites over the last year or so. Especially these two! 

Flower of Evil is a mystery/crime drama/thriller sort of show. Yes, all of that packed into sixteen episodes. This was an exciting, intriguing, enthralling show and I loved every minute of it. There were twists and turns and moments where you didn't know what was going to happen and who was good and who was bad. You were taken on a ride from the first minute of episode one to the last minute of episode sixteen. It was exciting all the way through! This series is rated R, but honestly, I have no idea why. There is absolutely nothing in any of the episodes that gave any indication as to why it has that rating. I loved this show, would totally watch it again and highly recommend it!

Now, for something the total opposite of the above show...a hilarious and sweet and quirky romantic comedy series. Clean With Passion for Now has got to be one of the best K-dramas I've seen yet! Yes, it has a funny title and if you just read the one or two-sentence synopsis that is offered on the internet, you may not be interested. But, rest assured, if you give it a fair chance, you will fall in love just like I did. The characters, main and side, were so relatable and genuine. There was plenty of comedy...I laughed so hard at some parts, and lots of sweet, heartwarming, touching moments as well. The romance in this drama just maybe my favorite so far in a Korean show. I just loved everything about this one!

And finally, Home Fires. This is a British period drama set right as World War II was beginning. It is based on a book sharing real-life accounts of life during that time in England. Several of the actresses were familiar to me as I recognized them from Downton Abbey and Call the Midwife, and they were excellent in this series, too. Each one was more of a background or side character in the other shows, but in this drama, they each got to shine beautifully. There was so much packed into just two seasons, with a total of twelve episodes. Emotions, relationships, family drama, wartime troubles, worries and stress, community gathering together, men and women fighting the war together, each in their own spheres and ways. It was remarkable...the only thing is that it is only two seasons. And worse than that, season two ends with the biggest cliff hanger...more than one, to be exact. Several of the characters that you have come to love are faced with something HUGE and something BIG happens and then the series ends. Oh, I just hate that! Thankfully, thanks to some kind readers of my blog, I learned that there have been some novels written by the creator of the show that continues on with the story. I think it goes without saying that book one is currently on its way to me from England. And I am ever so excited to see what happens!

~ Music ~

The wonderfully talented JJ Heller released a new collection of well-loved, popular songs this winter. She had done so previously with lullabies and classic type songs. This one has some more modern hits that have been popular and they are just wonderful. I have a few favorites, one in particular because it reminds me of the movies and TV shows that I watched in the late 1990s and early 2000s...it's a song that was very commonly included in romantic scenes back in the day and it just feels so nostalgic to me. Plus I've always loved it anyways. You can listen to it here. But, really, you just need to listen to the entire new album entitled, I Dream of You, Volume 3.

~ Homemaking Arts ~

And for the final category, I have two homemaking arts that brought me delight this winter. The first is hand embroidery. Oh, I have longed to do this for probably six years now and just kept pushing it off. It seemed so daunting and overwhelming and complicated. But I just took the plunge and set to work on a kit that I received for Christmas a few years back. I fell in love with this handicraft immediately! I am nearly done with my first project and while it's not perfect (I am just a beginner, after all), I am very pleased with how it looks. The rhythm of making the different stitches and the peacefulness it brings is what I love most. The end result is a plus, too! I'll have to share pictures once it's all done!

The other homemaking art that I learned was yoghurt making from scratch. I mentioned this last week in my Friday Femininity Gathering post, but I am still blown away that it actually worked! I'll be sharing the method I used soon here on the blog. Now I just need to make some more granola to enjoy with it and some yummy fresh fruit.

Well, friends, there you have it. All of my wintertime favorites! This was a delightful bunch of treasures, if I may say so. The books and music and shows and crafts all made my winter that much more cozy, fun and magical. I hope that maybe you learned about something new in this post that you want to add to your spring days. And as always, I'd love to hear what your favorites were from the wintertime, so do share below!

Have a lovely weekend! Stay cozy!

♥

Homemaking & Domesticity ♥ An Artist's Life

The last few months I have been slowly reading my very first Elizabeth Goudge novel. I chose Pilgrim's Inn as my introduction to her writing mostly because the story greatly appealed to me and I had read from some trusted bibliophiles that it was a good place to begin. 

It's taking me some time to read it entirely, not for the fact that I'm not enjoying it or because it's boring, but rather because it's a slow-me-down sort of read. The kind of book that makes you settle down and sort of become grounded where you are, aware of the beauty that lies straight before your eyes. And I find those sort of books to be a bit more work to read, as opposed to a more fast-paced storyline and writing style. Another reason why it's taking me a bit longer to read this book is that there are so many bits and pieces here and there that I find need to be pondered good and deep. I've always underlined and made margin notes as I read any nonfiction books, but never a novel. Until Pilgrim's Inn, that is. I am forever changed and shall mark in my novels from this day forward. One of those wee tokens of wordy wisdom is what brings me here today...

A major theme in this particular Goudge novel is that of home. I shared a quote from the very beginning of the story back in November. You can read it here if you'd like...I'd highly suggest you do as it is quite beautiful. And another one is the inspiration behind this post you are reading now.

She was not an artist in the accepted sense of the word, but when she cooked a meal or tidied a room she was yet unmistakably her father's daughter. A room arranged by Sally, a meal she had cooked, were as unforgettable as her father's pictures. Imaginative, deft touches here and there were like the glimmer of light on water that without it would have been opaque and dull. 

(Pilgrim's Inn, Elizabeth Goudge)

Sally, the girl that this quote speaks of, is the daughter of an artist. A wonderfully talented painter whose works are admired and whose skills are respected. But what this quote reminded me of is that homemaking and domesticity are art, too. Sally understood that. Elizabeth Goudge understood that. And I'm coming to understand that more and more.

I am not a talented artist in the traditional sense of the word. I can't draw or paint particularly well. I can't create something magnificent from a lump of clay. And I've never created a masterpiece that hangs in a grand museum for all to see. On top of my inability to do these things, I've never even strived for such accolades or prominent positions or to be a professional in any particular field of work. I do desire to learn and practice many different forms of art, in the traditional sense, but even still, I am starting from complete scratch, and will never be perfect at any of it.

Homemaking, however, is art, too. And the small, sometimes hidden, other times bigger, things that we do in our daily lives to bring beauty to the space we occupy and the world around us, matter greatly. Just as much, really, even more so than those of world-renowned artists.  

This art of domesticity is something that I find myself wanting to delve deeper into. I love the idea of learning old-fashioned handicrafts and practicing them, adding beauty to the walls of my home and loveliness to my wardrobe and something delightful that makes someone smile. But the art of domesticity doesn't just lie in the practice of crafting and sewing and stitching and knitting and such. Although, I do believe that is a big part of it...the creativity and imagination these endeavours allows one to dig into is so vast.

The simple acts that make up our daily life are also part of the art of domesticity. Cooking a meal with love and presenting it with care. Taking the time to make your dinner table a pretty place, lighting a candle, using special drinking glasses, serving the food in colorful dishes, and perhaps playing some instrumental music in the background. It's art, perhaps not in the traditional sense of the word, but it's definitely art. 

Art when done right is inspiring, lifegiving, and stirs something deep within the soul. Think about when you listen to a certain piece of music or play a beautiful song, or when you look at a painting or statue that someone has created. These things are art done right. But homemaking is also art done right. Homemaking is inspiring. It's lifegiving. And it stirs something deep within the soul. 

The art of domesticity isn't just in the skills needed to make a house a home, such as cooking or baking or crafting. It also lies in the atmosphere of the home. The way a room is kept and decorated can, indeed, be a work of art. I think too many times people are discouraged because they think their decorating skills are lacking or that they need expensive items in their homes in order for them to be beautiful. But that just isn't true at all. I think, first and foremost, you need to ask yourself what kind of feel you want your home to have and then go from there. Cozy, peaceful, inviting, cheery, fun, gentle, and nurturing are the words that first come to mind for me. From there, you can go and decorate and arrange your home in such a way to bring those feelings to life. Adding blankets on the backs of chairs or couches; placing candles around; hanging colorful pictures or paintings on the walls; letting natural light shine in through flowy curtains; putting a rug on the floor; placing knick-knacks and other decorations on tables and shelves that are expressions of you and your family; choosing a color for the walls that makes you happy and cheerful; and having a vase of fresh flowers on the mantle. These are all some things that we do in our home to create the atmosphere we want and crave. 

And it's all art.

Just like Sally in the story, I am not an artist in the accepted sense of the word. But how I desire and strive to be an artist in domesticity and homemaking. Imagination and creativity in abundance are needed for this work. But also a lot of heart and soul, much cheerfulness and fun, and plenty of gentleness and grace along the way.

Dear friend, please know that you are an artist in your home. Think of your home as the canvas and each thing you do to bring beauty and light and life into your four walls, no matter how small or seemingly unnoticed, as a brushstroke on a grand masterpiece. Each day, month, year...the painting gets brighter and more magnificent and your skills become better and your inspiration grows. Open yourself up to the creativity and imagination that homemaking calls for. Allow your home to become a magical, wonder-filled place. Make room for the whimsy and loveliness that are begging you to let them in. And then sit back and watch the story unfold...homemaking and domesticity...they're most definitely works of art, indeed.

Stories That Build Civilization

“I read old books because I would rather learn from those who built civilization 

than from those who tore it down.”

I’ve been pondering this quote for a few weeks now; it’s always been a favorite of mine. And it’s quite convicted me! There are so many still seeking to tear down civilization and destroy what matters most...the home and traditional family. How rare it is these days to find books with life and a family centered at home without women focused on career!!! I’ve been working on a book list of stories that I want to read that very much value and cherish those things...and have decided that shall be my bookish focus for the next while. Along with a list of things to watch along the same lines. I believe it’s important to fill oneself with beauty and goodness, and to be one of those who builds up civilization, even, maybe especially, in our modern day.

So, my question to you is: what books do that for you? What books value and cherish home and traditional family and fill you with beauty and goodness? What books build up civilization?

 Do share because I’d love to add to my list!!

Pumpkin Spice Streusel Muffins

Happy Friday, friends!

Have I got a treat for you?!?!? 

 Pumpkin is obviously the star flavor in autumn. It's in everything from foods to candles to coffees and teas. One of my most favorite ways to enjoy the pumpkin flavor is in a muffin and these pumpkin spice streusel muffins didn't disappoint! I love anything with a crumbly topping, so these were a real hit in my book. My family loved them too and the spices filled the air with a heavenly scent as these muffins were baking in the oven. They pair wonderfully with spiced herbal tea and are great for breakfast or a quick afternoon pick-me-up or dessert...anyway you eat them, you'll love them.

Keep on scrolling for the recipe!

Pumpkin Spice Streusel Muffins

4 eggs

1 1/2 cup sugar

20 oz. pumpkin puree

1 cup canola oil

3 cups flour

1/4 cup brown sugar

1 tsp. baking powder

2 tsp. baking soda

3 tsp. pumpkin pie spice

1 tsp. vanilla

1/2 tsp. salt

For the Streusel topping:

1 cup flour

1/2 cup brown sugar

1/2 tsp. pumpkin pie spice

1 stick melted butter

In a large mixing bowl, cream together the sugar, brown sugar, eggs, oil, and vanilla. Then add in the pumpkin puree.

In a separate bowl, whisk together the flour, baking powder, baking soda, salt and pumpkin pie spice. Gently fold the dry ingredients into the wet. 

Evenly scoop the batter into muffin tins lined with paper liners. Make the streusel by combining all the ingredients and crumble about 1/2 to 1 Tbsp. of the streusel topping mixture to the top of each muffin. 

Bake in a 350*F oven for about 18-22 minutes, or until a toothpick comes out clean.

Cool and enjoy...or enjoy slightly warm if you can't wait that long!

♥

Happy baking, friends!

May your weekend be lovely in every way imaginable!

Reawakening Your Creativity

Slumps. You probably know what I'm talking about. Well, I'm here to share about a slump I've found myself in this year.

2020. What a year, right? It started out nice and slow and just like any other year. Then, in late February, things changed. A worldwide pandemic hit and every continent was shut down and people were being affected in big ways and small. It didn't matter if you were rich or poor, old or young, red or yellow or black or white. It didn't matter if you were a hustle and bustle type of person or if you preferred a slower-paced life. It hit us all, in one way or another...and for some, it hit hard. The news was loud and everyday headlines were coming out faster than I think they could write them, and certainly faster than any average person could keep up. On top of that, there has been some social unrest and a complicated, heavy election at hand as well. Needless to say, 2020 has been one heck of a year. I think it's all going to be one that we don't soon forget and one we will all be recalling stories from fifty years from now.

Anxiety has always, unfortunately, been something that I have known very well. On top of that, being a highly sensitive person with some OCD at times, let's just say I know what it feels like to be down and depressed and overwhelmed with anxiety while at the same time feeling scared and being overcome with a barrage of intrusive thoughts. I wrote a bit about this earlier this year HERE. And all of those things really hinder me at times from being happy and calm and peace-filled. They've also put me in a slump more than once. 

Earlier this year, as the things were unravelling in the world and as the news got louder and more rampant, I began to feel myself falling into one of those slumps. I no longer had a desire to even do any of the things that made me who I am and brought me happiness. They became less than desirable and even when I would do them, I just didn't feel happy...the anxious thoughts were still there and the voices were still in my head. Sometimes louder than ever. 

Over the summer, I began to ponder these things and came to the realization that I no longer wanted to be in this slump. I declared that enough was enough! In the past, I have been a head-first type person, just delving in all the way, but I've come to learn over time that way doesn't work for me. So this time, I chose a different path. One that was softer and gentler and slower. A path towards reawakening my creativity.

Most of this was done quite mindlessly, as I am a firm believer in things happening organically and naturally, but I was always aware of my thoughts and tendencies. I would notice when I was feeling anxious and how it hindered me from doing something that I enjoyed...for example, cooking. Then I would take notice of what happened when I just stepped forward and got myself in the kitchen and made dinner for my family.  Even if I didn't feel it at the start, soon after, those good, happy feelings came back and I began to taste the delight that I always felt whilst cooking. I think that the key to moving forward is not to put too much thought into it...pay attention and take notice and then just let things happen naturally as they may. That's when the magic takes place!

One night in bed I was pondering things and came up with an idea to make cooking fun again for me and something that I enjoyed and loved again...it’s always been more than just fixing food and preparing a meal to me, but a creative outlet, a way to explore and experiment and a way of expressing love for those who I share my life with. I’ve called it The Great Cookbook Adventure of 2020, taking a bit of inspiration from The Great British Bake-Off, and have been slowly finding joy in cooking again ever since I began a few weeks ago. I will share more soon, but I mostly wanted to say that if you’ve felt more anxious and stressed out this year and your creative outlets don’t seem appealing anymore, if you feel dry and like the light within you is dim, I get it. But teeny tiny baby steps and treading softly and gently make a big difference in such a short amount of time...and without you even realizing it. Stick it out. Even when you don’t feel like it, take part in that creative endeavour you love so much; it will give back more than you can imagine and be immensely more lifegiving than you can dream. 

Softly and gently. You will get there. 

The truth is that slumps will come and they will go. It's kind of the rhythm of life as we humans journey down life's path. But sometimes things, like a worldwide pandemic and loud news headlines and lots of "insufferable know-it-alls" will kind of just make it all worse. I know that's been the case for me this year, and maybe you can relate...whether it be a creative slump, or whatever. We all had to deal with this pandemic and are still dealing with it. We all had to give things up, whether they were big or small or both. There were things we were all looking forward to and they were either very different than imagined or they didn't happen at all. Every single person's mind has been filled with news stories and headlines and loud voices this year, more than usual, and our bodies are just trying to keep up. 

Take it easy. Go along softly and gently. Live slowly. Let the magic come how it wants...naturally and organically. Better days are on the way. Spring days will come again. No one person is left out of the equation...beauty is just around the bend and there will be plenty of magical adventures and happiness ahead. One step at a time; one foot in front of the other. 

In the meantime, we keep calm and carry on. Knit that scarf. Cook that dinner. Bake that bread. Decorate your home. Pick those flowers. Walk through your garden. Paint that picture. Write that poem. Imagine that story. Read that novel. Watch that movie. Crochet that hat. Sew that quilt. Mend those clothes. Ride that bike. Sketch that landscape. Frost that cake. Pour that tea. Make that bed. Play that instrument. Embroider that cardie. Plant that tree. Hang that wreath. Open those windows. Laugh til you cry and your belly aches. Light those candles. Listen to that music. Dance like you're five years old again. Twirl in the leaves. Jump in that rain puddle. Keep dreaming and planning and hoping and knowing that magic is not gone.

Your heart is being healed as you do all these things, little though they may seem. Let the beauty of it all renew your spirit and fill you again. Let the light within you come to life again and shine brightly. Just let it.

 

♥

Gently & Mindfully Tending Your Heart, Body & Soul

Tending to your own heart and soul is a crucial aspect of any life. We must fill our own cups before we can begin to pour out to others and invest in the goodness of our bodies, minds, hearts and souls. Self-care is what a lot of folks call this. Living a gentle, cozy life, in my opinion, is a form of self-care in and of itself. Choosing to live a life that is, in one way or another or perhaps many ways, different and countercultural to the world around us is already a step in the right direction. Today, let's chat about filling our cups and gently and mindfully tending to our own hearts and souls.

 

Living slowly and softly is not only a way of life that allows you to fully embrace the beauty of life's ordinary and grand moments, but it is also a way of life that is healthy. In no way is hustling and bustling about 24/7 healthy for anyone. It results in stress and anxiety and can even produce physical or emotional or mental health challenges. The cozy, gentle life invites you into a slower, softer, more meaningful way of living and its benefits are without number.

Self-care is important because we must tend to our own hearts and souls and bodies. This is not a selfish ambition when done in the right way. But, there are ways to take this overboard and neglect your responsibilities, homes and families...all of which are of utmost importance. Self-care in its best form is actually quite simple. It doesn't have to mean going to a spa and getting a massage (that would be a worst nightmare for me!) or spending hundreds of dollars. I'm of the belief, that along with most things in life, simple is best and that applies to the ways we tend to our hearts, bodies and souls. Let's chat about some of these ideas, shall we?

Slowing down is the best place to start, I believe. As Maria says in The Sound of Music, "let's start at the very beginning, that's a very good place to start." Well, slowing down in the best beginning in self-care rituals. When we physically slow down we settle our minds and hearts. If there is a need t be in a hurry, that's one thing, but when we're just going about our daily activities and tasks, we would all do well to just s.l.o.w. d.o.w.n. You aren't going to get much more done if you hurry about and you'll just work yourself up in the meantime, creating unnecessary pressure, stress and even guilt. When we take a breath and slow down, we can get our tasks done better and more thoroughly because we are putting more care into them and we can even enjoy the process as we go along.

Being gentle with ourselves is also hugely important. We do not need to put pressure or guilt on ourselves when 99% of the time it is completely unnecessary. we forget that we are human and often expect ourselves to be perfect and do things perfectly. Instead, when we live with gentleness towards ourselves, we can appreciate the way we were created and the journey we are on. Life is, after all, a journey and the journey takes an entire lifetime. When you are softer on yourself, you can even have fun with yourself. I think being able to laugh at oneself is a huge blessing! There is a quote that reads, "Blessed are we who can laugh at ourselves for we shall never cease to be amused." We need to take ourselves lightly and just have fun with things...and ourselves. Be compassionate towards yourself and not critical. Oftentimes, we are compassionate and understanding to everyone else except ourselves and we are, toom any times, our own critic and worst enemy. It's time we are kinder to ourselves.

Protecting your mind and soul is critical. I don't care what type of life you choose to live, how old you are, or where you live, this is extremely important. Only let goodness in and then goodness will naturally flow out. The garbage out there in the world is loud and rampant and overpowering and coming from too many sources to count. Turn the news off, close your computer, silence your phone, unsubscribe from the newspaper or those magazines, whatever it is...take those steps and protect yourself. Your mind and soul are precious ground and they deserve to be protected at all costs. And you are the only one with the power to do so. If you are a parent, this responsibility lies on your shoulders to protect your children, and I do hope you are taking it seriously. Mind our own business and quit worrying about what everyone else and their cousin is doing or what they think about this or that. When we tend our own garden, we will have much more peace and calm and clarity of mind than we do when we are too busy being concerned about everyone else out there. We each have a garden and we need to stick to tending it alone.

Taking care of your health is important as well. Eating healthy foods and taking the time to prepare good, nourishing meals will benefit, not only your body for the good food you are putting in it but also your soul as you slow down and take the time to prepare the meal yourself. Taking proper vitamins and supplements and getting exercise is also important. Making sure to get a bit of fresh air every day will do anyone a world of good. Be sure to take deep breaths and notice the beauty of nature around you. Soak up the earth's healing benefits and drink in the peacefulness that she offers you. Removing chemicals and dangerous products from your home is also highly beneficial, and instead of using natural, healthy products, which you can oftentimes make yourself at home using ingredients you already have in your pantry. Moving to as natural life as possible is always best and tiny steps are the way to do it. Don't overwhelm yourself thinking it all has to get done and switched over in one night, but rather do a little bit here and there and soon you will see grand changes.

Creating peaceful, slow morning and evening routines brings calm to the start and end of your day. If you have to set your alarm in the morning, do so with a bit of time to spare so you're not in a rush. And, if you can, choose a happy or peaceful sound to wake up to instead of the loud blare of a typical alarm. Take the time to wake up slowly and get ready for your day in a calm manner. Calm doesn't always have to mean quiet or slow as a snail. This can mean putting on fun dance music while you get dressed but it can also mean you light a candle and have your morning by its flicker instead of bright lights. It's all about finding what suits you best. At night, make your bed as cozy as you can...make it a place you want to be to sleep, inviting and warm and squishy soft. Read a book or watch a lighthearted show before bed instead of scrolling through your phone or watching the news. Enjoy a cup of soothing herbal tea if you like that. Take a warm bath or shower and get your body clean and refreshed. Put on comfortable, cozy pajamas. Spritz a sleepy time blend of essential oils on your bed and pillows or diffuse some lavender in your room as well. Awhile before you are ready for bed, begin making the preparations for bedtime...turn the big lights off and only use soft lighting, reduce loud noises, and prepare your room for sleepy time. 

Other forms of self-care include enjoying different hobbies that bring you happiness. Spending an hour knitting in the evening or reading a few chapters of a delightful novel are two of my favorites. I also love spending time in the kitchen baking a batch of cookies sometimes or making a loaf of homemade bread. Writing in my commonplace journal and collecting favorite thoughts or quotes that I have come across brings stillness to my mind at the end of the day. There are even opportunities for self-care whilst doing your daily tasks. Washing dishes by hand using a sweet-smelling soap and listening to the rain trickle down the window or with soft music in the background. Lighting a candle whilst you are wiping down the counters at night and picking crumbs off the floor. Making the bed in the mornings with the sunlight streaming in and the sound of birdsong outside the window. Taking your camera along on your daily walk to capture the beauty of nature and the earth's changing seasons can remind you that beauty is everywhere. Self-care can also be done in the company of others. There are few things more soul-filling and lifegiving than being with those you love most. Having a night of no screens and just playing cards or board games and eating popcorn or ice cream around the table is so fun. Pulling chairs around the firepit to make a circle and just hanging out in the evening chatting and laughing can fill a person's heart more than just about anything. Allowing the conversation at dinner to last long after the meal is finished...the dishes can wait until later or tomorrow, but the lingering chatter and warmth of family can't be beaten.

And finally, learning to say NO is crucial. We are not required to attend every event we are invited to or take part in every activity under the sun. We are also not required to join in the negative train that is so prevalent out there. Turn your phone off or leave it behind as much as possible. You don't need that constant connection to the world in your back pocket, nor do you need to know what is always going on. Checking it just a couple times a day is plenty enough...the other times can be spent in ways that are much more beneficial and healthy to your mind and soul. We do have to attend every debate or gossip party there is. Those things steal our joy and peace and ruin our perspectives. There is much to be said about living a quiet life...it's one of the best things you can choose for yourself and your family and yet so many don't. 

I hope that you found this post encouraging and helpful in some small way. Self-care doesn't have to be grand or even done in solitude. The most important thing is to fill your cup with things that are lifegiving and soul-filling...and those things will be different for each person. But the importance of protecting your heart and soul are crucial for everyone.

 

Stay cozy, friends, and find pockets of delight in your ordinariness!

♥