loving yourself through daily rituals

Another new week is beginning, friends. And, yes, I realize that I didn't post on Friday. On Thursday evening, when I would typically be writing Friday's post, I got caught up in a delightful novel I am reading, as well as watching an episode of Road to Avonlea, so I simply didn't get a post written. Instead, I gave in to a bit of time to love myself with gentleness and delight and I must say it was ever so lifegiving.

Today's post is about just that...how I spent Thursday evening is just one of the ways that I love myself...and today I hope to inspire you to show a little love to yourself. Shall we begin?!?!

  

Everyone deserves to show themselves love and daily rituals are one of the most practical and best ways to do so. While some may think of a day at the spa getting a massage or their nails done as "loving themselves", that sounds like hell to me, so I go about loving myself a bit differently. Of course, this is as unique as everyone of us, so my ideas are things that I enjoy, but I do hope that my ideas get your own wheels turning as you perhaps compile a list of things that you can implement into your daily life to love yourself a little bit more. (If you journal, this would make for a fun journaling afternoon!)

1. a calming morning rhythm

All of my life, in our home, we've made it a MUST that our mornings are slow and calm and easy. We avoid schedules and time frames as much as we can, only engaging in such things when we simply cannot avoid them. Our mornings and start of the day are slow and gentle. We do not rush to begin our day, nor do we get dressed as soon as our feet hit the floor. In our home, we cannot get going full speed ahead as soon as our eyes open. I think it's important, even if you do have to be on a more scheduled routine, to make your mornings and start of the day as calm and gentle as possible. Wake up earlier if you need to so you can slowly wake up in bed for ten minutes or so before getting ready for the day. Whatever it means for you, I think gentle mornings really set the tone for the entire day ahead.

Also another huge thing for me is making sure that the alarm I wake up to isn't going to jolt me awake. I can't stand the blare and siren-like sound of a normal alarm, so I use a soothing instrumental piece and it wakes me up in a calm manner. Those blaring noises make me wake up on the wrong side of the bed and set me in the wrong mood for the whole day and really make me feel anxious and uptight, but a soothing piece of music is quite a lovely way to wake up.

2. a peaceful bedtime rhythm

Sleep has been something I've struggled with since I was very young. I don't have a magic potion for making one sleep like a baby...I'm quite jealous of folks who can do such a thing. And most nights, sleep is something my body struggles with, but I do have a few things that help me. Every night, I spend some time before bed doing something calming, whether it be reading a novel or a calming magazine, watching an episode of a show I love, or even sometimes writing in my journals, I make sure that I end my day with something light, pleasant and gentle (the most important word, perhaps, when it comes to loving yourself). I go through phases of having a cup of tea before bed, too, which is really something I should get better at. Keeping lights low and using low wattage bulbs makes for an atmosphere that invites sleepiness to take over. I always make sure to have a nighttime or calming essential oil blend going in my diffuser and keep my salt lamp on because I do like a tad bit of light n the dark. Then, I avoid my phone because it really wakes me up. I don't have anything that works for me 100%, but these things do make a difference. (I also use my oils every night, but more on that below.)

3. slow showers or baths

I mentioned in a post once before that if there was a way to get clean without having to take a shower, I'd be totally down for it. I hate water and getting wet. It's just terrible. Ha! But I like being clean and so showers are a must. And so I figure I might as well make it a pleasant experience. Baths do not sound at all appealing to me, quite the opposite, actually, so showers it is. I make it a point not to rush when I am in the shower or once I get out either. I take my time and breathe deeply. I use soaps and such that are healthy for my skin and enjoy their lovely scent. And I do love a hot, steamy shower...no cold water for this gal. When I am getting dressed, I will often use a wonderful product called "goop" by a company called "All Good" and give my feet a massage...this stuff works wonders on dry skin in the colder weather, and on sunburn, too. I apply essential oils and braid my hair for bed. (I do love nighttime showers right before bed; I can never understand the enjoyment of a morning shower.) And I make sure to put on comfy pajamas that feel good on my skin. So even though showers are not my most favorite thing on the planet, it becomes a pleasant experience and I am loving myself through the process, too. 

4. essential oil rituals

Essential oils have been part of my life for several years now, but it's only been in the last few months that I've finally found the oils that work for me. I have a few roller bottles that I have made and I use them for different purposes on various parts of my body. I have a calming blend that I made myself with geranium, lavender and rosemary oils that I apply to my forearm and wrist area as well as over my heart. I also use a calming blend that I apply to my neck. I made a wellness roller blend that I apply to my lower back and it is good especially this time of year. I apply these to my body twice a day, rarely skipping a day. And they are magic!

5. fresh air

One of the ways that I am focusing on loving myself right now is by adding daily time in nature to my daily rhythms. I used to be so good about this, but over the last few years, I've really gotten out of this rhythm. At least 20-30 minutes a day, outside, breathing in the fresh air. Doesn't matter if it's day or night, if the sun accompanies me or the moon and stars. I just need to breathe in fresh air. Nature is the ultimate healer and our souls are filled everytime we step outside to join the earth in her bountiful beauty. Not to mention the world of good it does our minds. So fresh air it is!

6. rest and relaxation

It is vital that we have times of rest and relaxation. Even if it's just for 30 minutes, our bodies, minds and souls crave this. These moments are not a waste of time, nor are they to be neglected. Many of the ideas here could very well fit under this category of "rest and relaxation"...

7. positive circles

This one is a bit controversial, but one that I feel to be most important. And I speak from personal experience.

Sometimes the circles and communities and groups that are labelled as "right" or "good" are anything but. I'm talking specifically about Christian circles here, to be quite blunt. And I know all too well just how toxic and dangerous these groups can be. There is a lot of fear and guilt and burden in these circles and they make people feel horrible about themselves. They cause destruction to minds, hardness to hearts and a crushing to souls. The damage they do takes years, if not a lifetime, to overcome and work through. Healing lasts forever and it certainly isn't easy. 

This is something I have experienced firsthand and know all too well what this damage to the mind, heart and soul looks and feels like. With that said, it is so important that we have positive circles around us. People and ideals that are filled with light and beauty and goodness. Beliefs that don't cause us to have to spend years recovering from them. Sometimes you have to step away from that which may be labelled "right" or "good" in order to find what is actually right and good...so that you can find the beautiful.

Sometimes the very way you can love yourself is to step away from these people and circles.

8. healthy eating

Eating home-cooked healthy meals is about as good as it gets. Especially when you prepare the meal with those you love most. Of course, having treats here and there is fine, too...and even those can be healthy. Making sure to use the best ingredients possible and making mealtime a magical experience with candles, loved ones, conversation, and laughter is important, too.

9. slow days

Having slow days is good for the soul. There are many ideas for this, but one of my personal favorites is my family's soup and bread Sundays. Every Sunday, we have some sort of homemade soup (or stew or chili, etc.) simmering on the stove all evening long...and some sort of homemade bread baking in the oven. Then, after darkness falls outside, we sit down, and feast. It is a wonderfully slow and gentle Sunday and honestly couldn't be more perfect. And oh so fun!

10. unplug 

I cannot tell you the goodness I have found since I unplugged from social media over the early summer. I knew it would be good for me and have positive benefits but I didn't have any idea just HOW good it would be and how MANY positive benefits I would discover. Honestly, I cannot think of any good thing that comes from social media and would strongly encourage anyone to just delete their accounts and move on. You will find LIFE again and so much goodness. This is by far one of the best ways you can love yourself...you won't miss it, trust me!

Also, you don't need your phone attached to you every minute of the day. Honestly, it is quite ridiculous how much some people use their phones. I think they are really only necessary if you are making or taking a phone call or text. If you are using it for some other reason, ask yourself if it is really necessary or a good use of your time. Is it causing you stress or making you ignore those around you? There are times when using your phone to look something up is beneficial and good, but most of people's time spent on their phone is quite absurd if you ask me. 

11. avoid the news

I am really trying to get better about this one, because my anxious mind sometimes must know everything that's going on in the world. But it's never good for me. The news is a certain trigger for stress and no one needs to be engaged all the time. You don't need to know everything that's going on in the world at every minute of the day. If there is something going on in the world that you need to know about, you will. Just avoid the news as much as possible; your mind will thank you.

12. meditate and affirmations

These are both somewhat new to me, but I think they are excellent things to implement into your daily rituals. Meditating can be as simple as taking a walk outside in the garden and appreciating the earth and her wisdom and beauty. Or it could also be quietly listening to soothing music whilst washing the dishes or folding laundry. It can be pausing for five minutes to breathe deeply and clear your mind of intrusive thoughts. Repeating affirmations to yourself can be comforting, encouraging and also, well, affirming. 

13. trust your intuition

In many circles, we are taught not to trust ourselves and that our hearts will lead us in bad ways. And that, my friend, is simply a lie. A downright, and dangerous, lie. Trusting your intuition and following your heart's leading is so important. Your intuition is a gift you have; trust it, use it, be grateful for it. And your heart is leading you to your destiny. Allow it to guide you along life's journey and be open to its gentle leading. It can take time when you've been told for so long that these things are wrong or bad, but little by little, step by step, you will begin to trust yourself again...like you did when you were a little girl. And bit by bit, your heart will heal from all the lies you've been fed and your heart will begin to feel better. You'll trust it and you'll follow its leading. You will stop doubting yourself and as you are gentle with yourself, that trust will return.

14. take yourself and life less seriously...laugh

Seriously. Laugh at yourself sometimes. Not sometimes, most of the time. If you make a mistake or are clumsy, just laugh it off. I am quite clumsy and have to laugh at myself often. I am also a total dork so life gives me the opportunity to take myself less seriously often. Laugh as much as possible. And surround yourself with people who love to laugh their butts off...they make life a whole lot more fun and interesting. I think we would all be happier if we just started taking ourselves and life less seriously.

15. delighting in art

Art in any shape or form is perfect for showing yourself some love. Delighting in a good book or listening to some fun music and dancing, even if you're terrible at it. Watching a favorite movie or show, adding beautiful art pieces to your walls, or whatever it is that you love...fill your life with art. Attend plays and musicals and concerts that inspire and fill you up to overflowing. They literally can't be beaten! Peruse bookshops and art displays. Ask others with similar tastes what they love and get ideas from them. Art is lifegiving and soul-filling and that's what loving yourself is all about.

16. hobbies

Taking the time to invest and enjoy hobbies is also lifegiving and soul-filling. When we take the time to paint, sew, knit or crochet, cook or bake, garden, read, journal, embroider, play music, write, do puzzles, play card or board games, or whatever else it may be, we are investing in something we love. These hobbies are so much more than simply ways we spend time; they are what make us who we are. 

17. comfy clothing

One of the ways I love myself is by wearing clothing that I feel comfortable in. I do not spend time worrying about trends or what others are wearing. I wear what I like and what feels good to me. My style is my style and I don't care what others think. I think it's important to wear clothing that you feel good in and that makes you comfortable. Other clothing can make you feel insecure and bad about your body and that's not loving yourself.

18. making a lovely space

In order to thrive and be peaceful, we must be in a space that we find lovely and where we want to be. Making a haven out of your space is crucial. Making it "you" and filling it with things that you cherish or enjoy or simply love because they are beautiful are not only fun, but can also become a hobby, too. Your space, no matter how big or small, should be cozy and warm and comfortable. It should be as homey as can be...you should love being there and when you're not there, you should miss it terribly. This space should be a comfort to your soul.

19. avoiding stress

I think it is wise to avoid stress whenever possible. Guard your life and who you allow in, guard your home and who you allow in, guard your mind and who you allow to influence you. Don't be afraid to say NO. You don't owe anyone an explanation for how you live your life. Stop trying to explain yourself to idiots and just walk on. Stress shouldn't be something we seek out and yet too often, by our choices and decisions, it's almost as if we are chasing it down.

20. you are enough, you are perfect, you are beautiful

Remind yourself often that you are enough, you are perfect, and you are beautiful. Just the way you are. No matter what number you see on the scale or the number inside your jeans. No matter your personality or quirks or sensitivities. No matter if you are quiet or outgoing. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you and you don't need to constantly work on yourself. You are enough just as you are...stop trying to tell yourself otherwise. You aren't too much or too little; you are just right exactly as you are. You are perfect right now, right here in this moment. Tell yourself these things regularly and allow your mind, heart and soul to actually believe it. Stop criticizing yourself...whether it be about your personality, your body or whatever. Start talking kindly to and about yourself...no more negative talk. Start loving yourself today, right now, as you are. Because you, my friend, are enough, you are perfect and you are beautiful. Yes, YOU! 

What are some of the daily rituals you enjoy? How do you love yourself? Do share below!

 May your week be blissful, dear reader friends!

♥

more comfort reads for your soul's delight

Morning, bibliophiles!

Yesterday, I shared a list of all my comfort books. They were stories of all sorts and kinds and all beloved favorites of mine...along with some that are on my reading list for this autumn. Today, I wanted to add a few more titles to that list. However, instead of fictional stories, these are nonfiction favorites.

Up until about two years ago, I read almost all non-fiction books. Pretty much all of the books I read were serious and heavy as heck. Religious topics and subjects were the majority of the things I read about...lots of messages that had some troublesome consequences for me, and lots of healing that has needed to take place since. Perhaps lots of healing that will take a lifetime to go through. Needless to say, I don't read those sorts of books anymore. And for a while, I had bad associations with nonfiction books...but, thankfully, I have found that doesn't need to be the case. There are tons of fun and delightful books out there that I have really enjoyed going through. And today I'm happy to share that list with you. 

I have gone through my bookshelves and written down every title that stood out to me. In this post, I have separated them according to their main subject or topic written about in these books...though some of them could certainly fit under a couple or even a few categories. Regardless, these are wonderful books to read straight through, or just a specific section here and there, or even to keep on your coffee or bedside table for a bit of perusing during a teatime or moment of free time. I hope you find some titles on this list that tickle your fancy and maybe even add to your library as well.

And as always, please do share your favorite nonfiction comfort reads below...I am *always* looking for more to add to my list. (Some of you have mentioned Gladys Taber to me recently and I have just barely looked her up, but her writing does look like my cup of tea...so thank you for sharing that!) Keep the awesome recommendations coming!

Home, Domesticity, & Natural Living...

Hands-on Home by Erica Strauss

Down to Earth by Rhonda Hetzel

Simply Living Well by Julia Watkins

Year of Cozy by Adrianna Adarme

The Art of Gentle Domesticity by Jane Brocket

Little House Living by Merissa Arink

Heart of the Home by Susan Branch

The Made from Scratch Life by Melissa Norris

Hand Made by Melissa Norris

Seasonal Pleasures & Celebrations...

Celebrate by Pippa Middleton

Mrs. Sharp's Traditions by Sarah Ban Breathnach

Cozy Cookbooks...

The Mitford Cookbook by Jan Karon

So Much to Celebrate by Katie Jacobs

Eat Like a Gilmore by Kristi Carlson

Little Women cookbook by Wini Moranville

Anne of Green Gables cookbook by Kate MacDonald

Taste of Home (some of my all-time favorites for every season, holiday, ordinary day. etc)

Gooseberry Patch (I feel the same about these books as I do Taste of Home)

Mary Berry cookbooks (about as cozy as you can get; she also has an autobiography that I want to read)

Honey and Jam by Hannah Queen

Memoirs & Biographies...

The Fairy Tale Girl by Susan Branch

Martha's Vineyard, Isle of Dreams by Susan Branch

A Fine Romance by Susan Branch

A Year in Provence by Peter Mayle 

Beatrix Potter: A Life in Nature by Linda Lear

Home by Julie Andrews

Talking as Fast as I Can by Lauren Graham

Slow & Gentle Living...

Slow by Brooke McAlary

Romancing the Ordinary by Sarah Ban Breathnach

Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach

Something More by Sarah Ban Breathnach

 

Food Memoirs...

Lunch in Paris by Elizabeth Bard

My Life in France by Julia Child

Julie and Julia by Julie Powell

Bread and Wine by Shauna Niequist

A Homemade Life by Molly Wizenberg

Hygge and the Like...

Live Lagom by Anna Brones

How to be Mindful by Anna Barnes

The Book of Hygge by Louisa Thomsen Brits

The Cozy Life by Pia Edberg

How to Hygge by Signe Johansen

comfort reads to delight your soul

Autumn evokes a desire to read comforting stories. Stories of home and family and of gathering together. This time of year also has a spooky feel which inspires mysteries to be picked up and enjoyed. Sometimes you're in the mood for a story to whisk you away to a faraway land, sometimes real and other times make-believe, for an adventure. And other times, you wish to become grounded right where you are...at home in your own little corner of the world, treasuring everyday moments and flourishing on your own soil. I know all of that is true for me. Autumn invites me to pick up a book stack, most often bigger than I can realistically conquer in a few months' time, but nonetheless, delightful and comforting. These are some of the stories that I have enjoyed in years past as well as the ones that are on my reading pile for this year. 

Do settle in and get cozy as we share some comforting bookish delights...

Cozy mysteries are our cup of tea in this home. We don't like gory, gruesome scenes and details, nor do we want to be scared out of our wits. But a good cozy mystery is just the ticket. My mom has loved Joanne Fluke's Hannah Swensen series and Leslie Meier's Lucy Stone series for years now. I'm just starting my own collection of these authors and am excited to enter the worlds of these two amateur sleuths as they solve mysteries in their own charming small towns. And a mystery series that I've heard of and am wanting to try for myself is Laura Childs' Tea Shop Mysteries. These come highly recommended by some trusted bibliophiles and they look just wonderful. The best thing about all of these series is that there are *many* books in each series...you can enjoy them for a long time.

Last winter, I discovered the absolute delight of Susan Wittig Albert's Cottage Tales of Beatrix Potter series. I loved the first book of the eight in the series and book two is on my list for this season. The stories are heartwarming and endearing and sweet as can be. The mysteries are fun and not at all scary or gory. And the little critters and pets of the townsfolk even help solve them...along with Beatrix Potter, of course. 

Anne of Green Gables and Little Women, along with other books by both L.M. Montgomery and Louisa May Alcott are always on my list for comforting cozy reads. I've not read but just a bit of either author so far, but what I have, I do so love and enjoy. Laura Ingalls Wilder's Little House on the Prairie series is one that is best read on cozy days, in my opinion, too.  While I certainly did not like all of the harsh parenting methods in book one, I do have book two on my list for this season and still enjoy the stories. And if you like books set on the prairie, Janette Oke's books can't be beaten if you ask me. I first began reading her Love Comes Softly series as a young teenager and have enjoyed other books and series of hers, too. They always remind me that valuing the important things in life is always worthwhile, good and right.

The Penderwicks is a lovely series with a sort of Little Women feel to it. And the Betsy-Tacy books are some that I am looking forward to delving into for the first time. Then, sometimes you're just in the mood for a sweet children's storybook, and for that, I heartily recommend the Brambly Hedge series by Jill Barklem, which includes four seasonal stories and four other stories with various adventures and such. Beatrix Potter's stories are also on that list of "must-reads". They are ever so adorable and I've just had the best fun reading them for the first time this summer...and I'm continuing on with the rest this autumn.

For a bit of magical fun, I have fallen in love with the magical realism genre. So far, I've only discovered Sarah Addison Allen's novels, but they are some of the best I've ever read. First Frost simply must be read in October, and a couple others I've heard are best read in the wintertime or summer, depending on the story. I always think it's extra fun reading them at their appropriate times as it makes the story come alive even more. 

Harry Potter, The Hobbit (and Lord of the Rings), and The Chronicles of Narnia are series that you can totally get lost in. I've read some of the books under these series here, but some of the others are on my list for this season, as well. As with the Anne of Green Gables and Little Women books, these series also have movies that were inspired by the books. And that's always good fun, too!

Some books are based on TV shows, and some shows are based on books. Home Fires is one of my beloved shows, but it only had two seasons. Major bummer! Fortunately, there are a few books that follow and continue on where the series left off. Keep the Home Fires Burning is the first novel starting where the series ended, and I sure hope it's as good as the show. Virgin River is a show I came to really love this summer...and I was elated when I discovered it was inspired by a huge series of books. I just recently got book one and can't wait to dive in! If it's good, it will be a fun, long series to get lost in.

Some other books that I have on that extra special "comfort reads" list include the Paddington series by Michael Bond- perfectly whimsical for any age; The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society- one of my all-time favorites and so enchanting; Jan Karon's Mitford series- charming, heartwarming and also a bit quirky; any books by Miss Read- English villages and sweet stories make for the best combination; Lark Rise to Candleford- one I'm hoping to start soon; the Elm Creek Quilt series- a long series of books by Jennifer Chiaverini- I've only read a bit so far, but so far, I'm loving it; and finally, absolutely any book by Elizabeth Goudge, though I must say Pilgrim's Inn is a great place to start and, in my opinion, best read in the autumn time.

Well, friends, there you have it. All the comfort books that will delight your soul that I personally love or am hoping to read this year. I'd love to hear your favorite comfort books, and even what you're reading at the moment, so do share below!

Happy reading, dear book lovers!

♥ ♥ ♥

a dozen ways to read more

Greetings, my fellow bibliophiles!

Today I have compiled a list of a dozen (plus one!) ways to read more. These are all the ways that I have personally found to be helpful in my own reading life. And I think they would be beneficial to any reader, whether you are a fast or slow reader, read 5 books a year or 50, or are old or young. If you love stories and want to add them to your daily life more, here are some simple ideas to get you going.

Most of all...just have fun with reading! 

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1. Read before going to sleep

This is by far, hands down my favorite way to read. I've been reading before bed since I was a young teenager. There's nothing quite like cuddling into layers of blankets and squishy pillows for a bit of reading before drifting off to dreamland. I like to keep a small basket on the table beside my bed with a selection of books that I want to read for the next while. I keep a small selection of bookmarks and a pencil in a jar as well in case I want to mark or underline any sections that stand out to me...last winter I found myself underlining numerous quotes and selections from Pilgrim's Inn that were particularly beautiful. In order to keep things cozy and bed-friendly, I use a small lamp instead of bright overhead lighting and I even have a book lamp I use at times, too. That is especially handy when travelling. Thirty minutes (at least) every night is a good way to get a good bit of reading in. And it is a wonderfully calming way to settle down right before bed...much better than having a phone in your face.

2. Books before TV

I have my set shows that I like to watch regularly and my favorite movies that I can never get enough of. But, in all honesty, I do think that books are an important part of life that are getting extinguished from too many lives. Prioritizing books over TV is a way to strike a balance and enjoy both. You can simply choose to read one chapter or for, say, thirty minutes, before watching any TV. I am by no means anti-TV...don't even get me started on that kind of thing. {{winks}} However, I seriously think that books are vital to our wellbeing, shaping of our imaginations and minds and of offering adventure and fun as well as peace and calm to our days. Don't neglect your books in favor of always turning on the TV. There is a way to enjoy both!

3. Take books everywhere you go

Simply packing a book in your purse or bag is a way to ensure you have something to do if you're stuck in line somewhere or in a waiting room or at some appointment, etc. Oh, and if you're like me, books help ward off unwanted conversations with random people in crowded places. {{winks}} Seriously, though, this is a fun and great way to get more reading in. It is especially nice if you aren't prone to motion sickness and can read in the car. I cannot, but I still take books with me. When I am out and waiting for some reason at a place, I just pull it out and read a bit. If you want, you can even pull off at a park and get a bit of reading and nature at the same time.

4. Read on commercial breaks

A couple winters ago, I learned this little secret. When you are watching TV or streaming something online, you can read a heck of a lot during the commercial breaks. I read an entire book almost strictly during commercial breaks whilst watching a Korean drama last winter. It was marvellous! We always mute on commercials here, fast forward where we can, and set our DVR as often as possible, so reading on commercials is a no-brainer.

5. Keep realistic goals

While reading 100 books a year sounds awesome, it may not be practical for you. Setting goals is fun and I enjoy them as much as the next person, but it's important to keep them realistic. Think of your daily schedule and tasks that you must do each day as well as the realistic amount of time you have set aside for reading. Don't forget that in different seasons of life you will have different amounts of time you can devote just to reading...and that's okay. It may be better to set the goal of 12 books a year; that's just one a month. Or even 24 books a year is just 2 a month. Reading really shouldn't be about the number of books you read but whether you are having fun and reading things you love instead. 

6. Make fun challenges for yourself

With that said above about keeping realistic goals, setting fun challenges can be a great way to keep reading exciting and fresh. There are literally so many different challenges online you can choose from or simply use them as a guide as you make your own. I like to do this every now and then just to mix things up a bit...especially around seasons or holidays. My sister and I came up with a "21 in 2021" challenge for this year and even though I've deviated from it quite a bit, here is my personal list if you want some inspiration.

7. Make reading fun...and keep it that way!

Reading should be fun. Period. I think that should be the goal for reading of all ages...including school children. I'm not a believer in required reading lists because I do not at all think that's how to get a child to fall in love with books or reading. Offer them the choice of what they enjoy and you offer them the world of reading! Keep a book log of all that you read in a year or a reading journal to keep track of your thoughts on all your reads. Decorate them all cute and pretty and use them regularly. Read what makes you happy, and keep things light and fun!

8. Read with the seasons

I love living in tune with the seasons in various ways and reading is just one of them. While I don't read only seasonal books, I do love including several seasonal novels in my book stack at different times of the year. Winter always must include a snowy story; December is reserved for Christmas novels. Spring and summer need to have some sort of travel adventures and maybe a beach read, too. And autumn calls for mysteries and stories set around harvest and pumpkins and feasting. I think that including even one seasonal book each season, it makes reading all the more special and sets apart both the time of year and the books you chose for then. And you'll probably develop a small circle of books that you just simply must read each year during different seasons. 

9. Make a cozy atmosphere

I am of the very firm belief that wherever you read should be of the utmost coziest place to be. For me, I have two places I read. The first is in my bed...I like to make my bed each day and rearrange the pillows and straighten the blankets. This makes it more inviting for me at night to cuddle in for some reading time. I use soft lighting and even keep an extra pillow for comfort when sitting up to read. Then I also have a comfy chair that I read in. I keep a throw blanket and small pillow along with an ottoman to prop my feet upon. In both places, I will almost always have the diffuser going with some calming scent and occasionally light some candles. Cups of tea or a jar of fresh water also are a must. Along with pencils, bookmarks, and ample table space for my book stacks at the moment. Making a cozy place that makes you want to read there isn't hard at all, just a few simple things and a bit of personalization make it perfect.

10. Read whatever appeals to you...no matter what

Maybe I'm the only one, maybe I'm not. But over the last few years I've noticed that almost every time I see a movie or show or book or even music that seems to be all the rage, I just don't like them. So reading what appeals to me is sometimes not what's most popular and I have to look a bit harder to find books that I like. It means that I search online used bookshops until I find a place that sells the books on my list. Sometimes I like what everyone else does, but most of the time I don't. Reading what appeals to you is crucial to reading anything at all. If you don't like what you read, you're not going to want to read anything. Trust me on this one.

11. Stop reading books you don't enjoy...just move on

This one goes along with the one above. It took me several years to learn this one but once I did, boy was it a game changer! Stop reading a book if you aren't enjoying it. My sister laughs at me because all of my GoodReads ratings are either a 4 or 5 like 95% of the time. And that's because if I'm not absolutely loving a book, I just put it down. There are far too many books out there that I want to read to waste my time on the duds.

12. Don't pay attention to age brackets, etc.

One of the most detrimental things about reading is the boundaries we place on ourselves. We shouldn't stop reading children's books, even picture books, or middle grade or young adult novels because we no longer fit into those age brackets. As C.S. Lewis said, No book is really worth reading at the age of ten which is not equally- and often far more- worth reading at the age of fifty and beyond...and A children's story that can only be enjoyed by children is not a good children's story in the slightest. This is something that the conventional school systems really burden and brainwash children with. They must read on their grade level and according to their age, above that is okay. But if they enjoy books underneath that, that is simply not acceptable. I know this because that is what my experience was in a conventional school setting. And it flows right into adulthood. Adults cannot enjoy, much less, appreciate a children's story when in fact, it may be the most beautiful story imaginable. Just this year, I've begun reading some "children's" stories and have since fallen in love with the tales of Beatrix Potter and Jill Barklem's Brambly Hedge. I'm 27 and have never read them before. So as I discover these worlds for the first time as an adult, I am thoroughly grateful to be invited into these magical worlds of mice and hedgehogs and bunny rabbits. Quite frankly, we "grown-ups" would do well to step foot into these magical worlds more often.

BONUS: Grow your personal library always; keep good books in easy to reach places.

I know that for me, personally, one of the best ways to make me excited about reading is to have a constantly growing personal library. We are always buying books in our house...and nearly all of the books on our shelves are either used or bought at bargain shops for just a few dollars. Checking thrift shops, library used book shops, bargain stores and even certain places online can be a real treasure trove. I love full, overstuffed bookshelves and am of the belief that there is never too many books. And, along with growing your personal library, always keep good books in places you can see them. When you finish one, you can automatically pick up another. I don't know about you, but seeing a stack of four or five books on my bedside table really, really makes me want to read...just one more chapter before I turn out the lights. Keep track of authors you enjoy and genres you find delightful as well as recommendations from folks online who share your similar tastes. I have also found that signing up for newsletters from my favorite authors is a great way to learn about new-to-me authors when they share the books they're reading. All of these things help with growing your personal library. 

coziness for ordinary days…

Here are just a few ideas to add some coziness to your everyday life. These are neither difficult or extravagant, and can be done on any ordinary day. Choose one or two, here and there, to bring beauty, whimsy and fun to your cozy days...

♥ watch a cozy movie by candlelight under a snuggly blanket

♥ cook a meal that needs to simmer all afternoon long on the stove

♥ have a family game night with tasty snacks

♥ no screens for one night...light candles, read a book, hang out with family, chat, play games, craft, etc.

♥ hang twinkly fairy lights in your bedroom...or any other part of your home, for that matter

♥ make hot chocolate and top it with lots of marshmallows or whipped cream and serve it in a pretty mug

♥ make your couch or comfy chair extra cozy with blankets and throw pillows

♥ eat dinner by candlelight

♥ go on a nature walk or drive and take photos of the seasonal beauty

♥ read a novel, perhaps a seasonal story

♥ enjoy a cup of hot tea whilst curled up in bed

♥ have a soup and bread night by candlelight...even better if it's homemade and cooked together with your dearest ones

♥ create a cozy diffuser blend with essential oils to enjoy

♥ make a spicy scented room spray if it's autumn or winter (or earthy, floral scented one for warmer weather)

♥ wear cozy clothing...always

♥ bake homemade cookies

♥ listen to soothing music

♥ have a tea party, however simple or grand you wish

♥ wear your warmest, softest pj's 

♥ make homemade popcorn

♥ knit a cowl or scarf for the season

♥ light a candle while you go about your daily tasks

♥ journal your thoughts or favorite quotes

♥ wear fluffy slippers or thick socks...or both!

♥ bake seasonal breads

♥ wear knit scarves or cowls to stay warm

♥ add layers to your bed with blankets, comforters and extra pillows with pretty pillowcases on them

♥ use a dainty teacup for your nighttime, before bed cuppa

♥ display knickknacks on shelves and dressers 

♥ make your mantle extra festive with seasonal decorations

♥ create a seasonal recipe notebook full of comforting foods to enjoy during the colder months

♥ have a marathon of your favorite TV show or movies one day

♥ take a slow shower or bath and don't rush

♥ find essential oils that work for your own wellness and use them daily

♥ read a favorite magazine in your coziest spot for half an hour 

♥ rake leaves and then come inside for a warming meal

♥ collect acorns or pinecones and display them in your home

♥ make seasonal crafts to decorate your home

♥ have a hot chocolate, spiced cider, herbal tea and flavored coffee corner...well stocked with all your favorites, including pretty mugs (an electric kettle is perfect for this!)

♥ make a reading basket filled with a selection of novels or other books you want to read soon

♥ spend some time reading a children's storybook...no matter how old you are

♥ wear an apron while you bake or cook

♥ add paper or fabric bunting to any room you can...you can never have too much bunting!

♥ put fresh flowers in a vase to add some cheer to your home...even in the wintertime

♥ if it snows, go outside and play!

♥ and if it's rainy, go jump in some puddles...you're never too old to be silly!

♥ make a stovetop potpourri with orange wedges, cinnamon sticks, a splash of vanilla and water...simmer all day long, adding water as needed.

the abc's of cozy living

These are the ABC's of cozy living, according to me...settle in with a cup of cocoa or tea, some fuzzy socks and a blanket and make yourself comfy whilst you read along.

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Aromatherapy

No cozy life should be without its delightful scents. Whether it be a delicious smelling candle, a peaceful blend of essential oils coming from the diffuser, light and breezy scented room sprays or even something homemade being prepared in the kitchen, or a stovetop potpourri, a cozy home should always, always smell like bliss.

Baking

Baking is essential to a cozy life. Bread baking for the week, preparing a special cake or dessert for a holiday or birthday, or putting together a small selection of baked goods to share with a friend or neighbor, all of these things just ooze coziness.

Comfort foods

I'm thinking soups or stews simmering for hours all afternoon long into the evening and being dished up in old bowls that you've used for years. A table full of all the good foods your family loves and sitting around and passing bowl after bowl to one another as you share and feast together. I'm thinking about mugs of something warm when it's chilly outside and tall glasses of iced tea on hot, sticky summer days. There are comfort foods for all seasons and types of weather.

Drives and earth roaming

Packing up the car with drinks and snacks (or a picnic) and taking off for a few hours to who knows where is just the ticket for a cozy afternoon and evening away. If it's chilly out, pack some blankets and a warm drink in a thermos. Take along some fun music and blast it to your heart's content. Open the windows and breathe in that earthy air. Pull off at neat points to take pictures of nature's beauty or to simply stretch your legs a bit. Maybe even wander off a bit on a path through the woods or lay the blanket on the ground or back of your car and enjoy a chat and snack with your dearest roaming buddies.

Escaping for the day

Unplug for the day and escape. It could be a day at home with no connection to the outside world...just you and all the things you enjoy. Whether you are alone or if you prefer the company of others, like I do, escape for the day at home. Spa days at home, crafting afternoons, tea parties, movie marathons, a few hours of reading or just some peace and quiet are just a few ideas. You don't have to leave home to escape for the day, though you could totally do that too. Just see the ideas above about taking a drive.

Feasting by candlelight

Candlelight brings a special-ness to ordinary moments and events. Simply lighting a candle or two at dinnertime makes an ordinary meal magical and special and extra sweet. Loved ones lingering at the table long after the meal has been finished, candles flickering, laughter filling the air, stories being told and hearts being held. If folks did this more often, imagine the difference we would see in our world.

Gentleness

This is perhaps the secret to a truly cozy life. Gentleness. Gentleness towards yourself, towards others, towards your home and work and daily tasks. Gentleness towards the earth and all the creatures who dwell on this planet with us. While we are often more willing to show gentleness towards others, maybe we need to practice showing ourselves some gentleness, too?

Happiness matters

Don't let the muggles get you down, as they say. Don't listen to the naysayers who tell you that happiness doesn't matter or that you have to "choose joy" instead of happiness. Friend, your happiness matters. Listen to your heart and follow its gentle leading. Dream of things big and small and chase after them. Believe in magic and seek after it. Realize that being happy is crucially important and don't let anyone tell you any different. 

Immersing yourself in story

Stories come in all shapes and forms. The thing about stories is that they are all art. So surround yourself with art in all its various forms. Books of all kinds...picture books, children's stories, mysteries, fantasies, magical tales, legends and myths, heartwarming tales of beloved characters, adventures to faraway lands- whether real or make-believe, romances that make you believe in love all over again. Movies and shows that invite you into a world all their own and allow you to find a bit of yourself there. Art pieces and paintings that draw you into someone's imaginings. Music that whisks you away and plants you gently back on your seat again; music that makes you cry and smile all at once; music that is otherworldly and wonderful and inconceivably good. These are all stories...fill your life and home with them as much as you can.

Journal keeping

Journal keeping can be as elaborate or as simple as you wish. This is all about personality and unique taste and style. Journal keeping allows you to be creative and hold onto memories and things that you want to remember. It's like putting a bit of your soul onto paper for a later day. Quote journals, reading diaries, travel journals, junk journals and more are out there for you to explore and delve into. This hobby also allows you to slow down and bring peace and calm to your day as you create and make your journal.

Keeping traditions

Traditions range from being simple to grand. They exist for holidays, birthdays, seasons and even seemingly ordinary days. And they are as unique as the people who create them and live them out within their families and homes. I am a lover of traditions, especially ones for days that aren't special on the surface. Making the first day of autumn extra lovely with a cozy dinner and homemade dessert; watching certain movies at different times of the year; homemade pizza nights on the nights when we have a show on TV we want to watch; having seasonal tea parties; and going to concerts whenever a favorite musician comes to town...and even travelling to favorite cities to see them play.

Layer, layer, layer

Coziness just equals layers in my book. Layers, layers, and more layers. When it's cold outside, layer up that clothing! Sweaters with T-shirts underneath; scarves and knit beanies; thick, fuzzy socks (sometimes two pairs) and a warm coat. The coziest beds are the ones with layers of blankets and comforters and lots of pillows...at least to me. In the winter, I love having flannel sheets, two blankets and a thick, warm comforter on my bed. I always have a few extra pillows on my bed as well for those late-night reading sessions.   Blankets draped over the backs or sides of chairs and sofas are incredibly inviting, you just want to sink down into the cushions and put your feet up and stay awhile. Layers also come into decorating. A cozy home is layered...this is what makes it warm, inviting, homey, quaint, charming and cozy. Honestly, anything other than that, at least to me, is cold, sterile and dare I say it, ugly. Color on the walls...I personally love actual color, not a variety of white, beige or other neutral-only colors. Pictures or art pieces hanging on the walls. Windows where the natural sunlight can come in, perhaps with some cute curtains or other covering. Knick-knacks filling the shelves and mantle and every nook and cranny. None of that minimalism crap...that isn't cozy in the least. Your home should be a collection of things that say "you"...people should feel like they get to know you when they walk into your home. Layer, layer, layer.

Movie marathons

There are few things cozier than cuddling up on the couch on a chilly night, with a fuzzy blanket, thick socks on with your warmest pjs, a cup of something warm, perhaps some buttery popcorn and a favorite movie. As it goes with books and foods, there are just certain movies that I simply must watch in the autumn and winter. (And other favorites for summertime and spring, too.) So movie marathons...or watching a few episodes of your favorite show...is coziness at its finest.

Nature ramblings

There is no such thing as bad weather. That's something that my sister and I just grew up with. No matter how it was outside, my mom would dress us accordingly, and we would venture out into the grand world of our back garden. My childhood home, which we just moved from three years ago, had a forest behind our house. There was an old, rickety fence that you could open and walk through and when you did, it was just like you stepped into Narnia. Especially in the snow! At our current home, Shady Cottage, the gardens are a bit more wild and untamed, which I personally love. There is ivy growing up the trees and along the ground like a carpet of deep green. The trees here are old and nearly reach the sky. And every season boasts its own beauty in our garden. We are also surrounded by a number of small parks, along with a few large ones a bit further out. Some have trails and paths, others have ponds or a lake, and all of them are filled with different plants, trees, flowers and tons of seasonal beauty. I love taking my camera along with me and trying my best to capture some of the beauty whenever I step outside. Even if it's just for a quick walk down the block.

Over-the-top celebrations

When it comes to celebrations, whether it be a holiday, birthday, or some family tradition, I am of the "go big or go home" mentality. That's how I was brought up and it honestly created the most magical childhood. As I've gotten older, sadly and quite absurdly, so many folks have walked away from that sort of thinking. They've got a giant stick up their butts that need to be removed! And please hear me out: I am not talking about some rich and glamorous and fancy sort of lifestyle. We did not have lots of extra money when I was growing up, and yet every holiday, every birthday, every special occasion and many ordinary days, were made magical and memorable beyond imagination because of special touches and lots of love and creativity that went into them. So many folks, in the name of righteousness or intentionality or some other reason to kill, steal and destroy the magic in life, have said NO to things that bring magic to life. Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, Halloween, the Tooth Fairy, Jack Frost's first visit of the year, etc. My mom worked hard to protect my sister and me from those kinds of people growing up because she didn't want them to steal our childhood or the magic and fun that she thought was so important. I'm thankful she did because as I've gotten older I've seen what a gift that was and still is. Santa Claus came to our home on Christmas Eve and left a pile of presents under the tree. We would leave our homemade cookies and a tall glass of milk, and sprinkle sparkly reindeer food out for Rudolph and his friends. On birthdays, a special meal and homemade cake were prepared according to the birthday person's favorites. As my sister and I got older, we've adopted a few new traditions. One of my very favorites is our "autumn celebration dinner" which we enjoy every year on the first day of autumn. Cozy, comfort foods make their return for the year and a seasonal dessert is prepared. We light candles and sit around the table, lights dimmed, and feast til our heart's content. Do things up big and make life special. Pull that stick out of your butt if you need to. And for goodness sake, have some fun and bring some magic to your days!

Protect your peace

Toxicity and party-poopers and negative Nellies. These need to go. And ASAP! Seriously, why do we put up with all this crap when we could actually have peace and happiness. Sometimes you've just got to put on your big girl pants and not be so afraid to tell people that they are no longer welcome in your life if they bring negative energy, toxicity or make you feel like garbage about yourself. You don't owe anyone an explanation for how you live your life. And if there isn't respect, they've got to go. Protect your peace. Only you are the gatekeeper of your peace, so own it. Learn to say no and have some respect for yourself and the family within your home. You deserve peace, dear one. Please protect it! (I shared some more thoughts about this HERE if you want to check them out.)

Quirky details

This is one of the most fun aspects of cozy living, if you ask me. And that is being quirky! Whether it be in your clothing, home decorating style, how you keep your garden, or even your personality and hobbies. Quirky is authentic and authentic is best. So embrace all your quirky ways and let your magic shine! 

Romantic living

Romantic living and cozy living are one and the same for me. I believe you can't have one without the other. Bringing romance to ordinary life is simply seeing the beauty in every little thing and making ordinary moments whimsical and special. Lighting candles, using pretty glasses or mugs, slowing down to notice the flower blooming or the change of color in the leaves, making things pretty and lovely instead of just choosing a basic or utilitarian style. Wearing a cute headband or clip or flower in your hair. Playing music while you go about your day...and stopping to twirl and spin here and there in the midst of your tasks. You get the idea. {{smiles}}

Sentimentality

I feel that our world could do with more sentimentality. If folks were a bit more sentimental, maybe we'd see more value placed on the important things. Sentimentality is about both tenderness and gentleness as well as nostalgia and valuing the past, whether it be things, values, memories, moments, etc. Being sentimental is something that both men and women should be; it is far from being something only for women, though so many men get mocked or belittled for their sentimentality. I, for one, think our world needs more men who are sentimental, tender, soft and gentle, who value and cherish the sweet things and moments in life.

Teatime

Teatime doesn't need much explanation. Whether it's tea for one and a good book on a rainy afternoon or before bed, or a grand tea party for a crowd, teatime just can't be beaten. Teatime invites beauty, slowness, romance, and lots of fun...along with peace, calm and happiness with a good dose of magic and whimsy thrown in, too. And tea is much better enjoyed when served in a pretty mug or teacup...there's just something about it.

Unwind your mind and body

Your mind and body deserve a bit of time each day to unwind, preferably before bed, at least. Creating a gentle and simple nighttime ritual allows that unwinding to take place. Also taking breaks throughout the day when your phone is nowhere near you is also a must in my opinion. The world doesn't need you to be in connection with it 24/7...it can wait, your well-being cannot.

Venture into crafting and creating

One of the best parts of cozy living is venturing into a variety of hobbies. Crafting and creating are so much more than painting or sewing. This can be photography, cooking or baking, embroidery, knitting or crocheting, quilting, jam making and preserving and canning foods, gardening, decorating, journal keeping, the list could go on forever. The point is, cozy living should be filled with fun and enjoyable things such as hobbies. So pick one, give it a try and have fun. If it's not for you, pick another one and go from there! There are no rules to this!

"Wasting" time

Wasting time is such a lie. Sure there are times when wasting time really is wasting time. But in our hustle and bustle world, where nonstop go-go-go is praised, wasting time is a lie. Taking time for yourself or going on holiday or playing with your kiddos or pets, those things are not wasting time. Reading a novel, having a cup of tea, taking a leisurely walk. Those things are not wasting time. We would do well to rethink the whole "wasting time" thing because much of what we might call "time wasters" are actually lifegiving soul fillers.

eXciting adventures

Seeking out exciting adventures is one of life's greatest gifts. These adventures can be simple or grand, near to where you live or far away in a land across the globe. They can even be in your own backyard or living room. Making time for fun on a regular basis, no matter your age is crucial to a happy life. In our kitchen, we have a little decoration that says, "We don't stop playing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop playing." And how true that is!

Yes to good vibes

Again, don't let those muggles get you down. Good vibes only, people. Protect your peace. Not everyone needs to be allowed to your party called life. Negativity. Toxicity. Discouragement. Harassing or mocking comments. Those looking to bring you down. They don't have a place in your life. Good vibes only. Positive thoughts. Following your heart. Chasing your dreams. Believing in magic. Trusting fate. Being happy. Those are the things that have a place in your life. 

Zen atmosphere

A zen-like atmosphere is a peaceful, calm atmosphere. Make your spaces that way. Make your home a place you want to be, a place you long to be. Take a walk through your house and make notes of things you want to change or add to make it that haven you deserve. It doesn't have to be expensive or fancy or difficult, just use your creativity and imagination and make it yours.

What are some of your ABC's of cozy living? I'd love you hear your thoughts!

*This post was inspired by an article I read in The Cozy Issue of Bella Grace magazine in 2019.*

nurturing cozy ♥ an october series

A lovely October morning to you, dearest readers!

Oh, how delighted I am that October is finally here...this truly is one of my favorite months of the entire year. Autumn is here now and pumpkins and mums are gracing porches all over town. Cinnamon, nutmeg and cloves fill the air as breads, muffins and scones are being pulled from the oven. Hot tea is being drunk by the mugful and leaves are just beginning to turn gorgeous shades of cheery gold, rusty red and sunny orange. Evenings are longer and the draw towards the comforts of home and hearth are strong.

One of the best things about October, for me at least, is my annual October series here at my Inglenook. This is a tradition I've had in my blogging corner since 2014 and I am always tickled to continue on with the fun. Choosing a theme is something I spend my summertime pondering on. I usually end up with four or five topics that are on my heart and soul to share...and then begins the choosing game.

Last year, I invited you along as I shared all sorts of cozy things...and to be honest, I still had lots on my heart to share with you. So, alas, I have brought COZY back for this year as well, with a focus on nurturing cozy in every nook and cranny of beautiful, ordinary life. Oh, how pleased I am to share this October series with you all. If you enjoyed last year's, then I just know you'll love this year's posts too! 

(Last year's A Time for Cozy series is HERE.)

Coziness is something that we can experience 365 days a year, during all four seasons. It isn't *just* an autumn or winter thing. But, because it is autumn, after all, and I love making these October series a grand celebration of a gorgeous time of year, I've decided to share posts mainly in relation to the autumn and winter coziness. When spring returns, I'd love to share about coziness during that season, but for now...it's all about autumn! {{smiles}} 

Dear reader friend, I invite you to come along this October and join me for a grand celebration of autumn and of nurturing coziness...you can't imagine how elated I am to share these posts with you. Unlike years past, I have decided to only publish posts on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, instead of seven days a week. The rest of the week will be for writing the next posts, reading novels, rambling in nature, cooking soup and baking bread, drinking herbal tea, and savouring this favorite season of mine. And I hope you'll be doing lots of those enjoying sorts of things too!

Pour a cup of something warm and delicious, maybe grab something to nibble on,

find your comfiest spot to cuddle up and settle in...

the candles are lit and there's instrumental music in the background,

we're passing the kettle around and there's room for you, too.

Here's to a beautiful October...

full of magic and coziness in abundance!

♥ ♥ ♥